The adoption is a difficult emotional experience for everyone involved, especially for both birth mothers who are navigating the complexities of their choice to place their child for adoption, and for adoptive parents who are anxiously preparing for a new child. The adoption process can also be very demanding as all parties involved must follow rigorous guidelines. With all this additional stress, it can begin to take a toll on you. Below are some tips for keeping yourself healthy both physically, mentally, and emotionally throughout the adoption process. While everyone has a different experience, here are some self-care tips to consider as you navigate this emotional time. Use your Resources When the stress of the process seems overwhelming, it can help ease any anxiety or discomfort by reaching out to…
Top 10 Questions by Women Considering Adoption
If you have found this article, you are probably an expectant mother considering adoption as an option for a unplanned, crisis, or unwanted pregnancy. Since we are often asked similar questions, 1) you can trust that you are not alone! And 2) we have compiled some of our most common adoption questions asked by expectant mothers considering adoption with Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri. 1. If I contact Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, am I obligated to choose adoption? When you contact Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, an adoption specialist will help you objectively explore adoption to determine if it is the best choice for you and your baby, and they will help answer any of your other adoption questions. If you decide adoption is right for you, your adoption…
Do I get paid for adoption?
If you’re unexpectedly pregnant, having to worry about money can put you under additional stress. Adoption Choices of Missouri and Kansas works to help expectant mothers receive as much financial assistance for placing your baby for adoption as possible while you're going through the adoption process. We want you to have one less thing on your troubled mind. If your circumstances allow, we can help you find financial assistance for everyday costs like: Housing and Rent Medical care Transportation And more Additionally, all of our legal services are offered completely free of charge to you along with some adoption services like: Helping you sign up for free medical care throughout your pregnancy and delivery Access to free counseling and support services before, during and after the adoption; whenever…
I want to give my baby up for adoption, help!
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, considering your options, and researching the process of placing a child for adoption, you may feel overwhelmed by the amount of information available. Fortunately, you are not alone, and with a little guidance, you can make the decision that’s best for you and your baby! This is an outline of the steps you can follow if you decide that adoption is the right choice for you and your baby. The process will be different for every woman, and when you contact Adoption Choices of Missouri, we will help you make a more detailed plan that fits your needs and your pregnancy. Visit your doctor If you believe that you are pregnant, you should visit your doctor or OB/GYN specialist to confirm that you…
In the Hospital and Adoption Placement
One of the rights of the birth mother is to create her birth plan, which will be used to share her wishes and preferences about labor and delivery with the hospital staff. Adoption Choices of Missouri is very supportive in helping a birth mother create her ideal birth plan. In an open adoption, the adoptive parents might be invited to share their wishes for the birth process as well, such as whether they prefer certain types of pain medication (or no medication) to be used during delivery. Ultimately, however, decisions affecting pregnancy and birth will be made by the birth mother, for it is ultimately her body and birth experience. The birth mother is considered the parent of the child during the birth process and therefore has the right and the…
Telling others about your adoption plan
Choosing to place a child for adoption is generally a very difficult and emotional process for the birth mother. It is often hard for birth mothers to tell friends and family about their decision to place their child for adoption. This is particularly hard when the birth mother’s extended family is against the idea of adoption. Many grandparents, especially, may protest the idea of adoption and actively work to change the birth mother’s mind by making offers to raise the child themselves. Pleas may be made to “not give my grandchild away”. Suggestions about how to accommodate a new child may be made. While family opinions and ideas should be seriously considered, it is ultimately the mother who must make the final decision about what is best for herself and…