Newborn Adoption vs. Infant Adoption

Newborn Adoption vs. Infant Adoption

As a birth parent, you may be thinking about adoption and whether it is the right decision for you and your baby. Along with your decision making, you may be wondering what newborn versus infant adoptionis. It is important to note that not all adoptions are of newborns, but infants as well. Regardless of the age, though, adoption is a great choice for your baby, you and the adoptive family who wants to start or expand their family.

If you are thinking about making an adoption plan for your newborn or infant, our adoption center, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is here to help as you consider all of your options.

Newborn Adoption

Newborn adoption usually happens after the birth of your baby at the hospital where he or she is born. If you are thinking about newborn adoption as a good choice for you and your baby, you can create an adoption plan and agreement while you are still pregnant or soon after birth. Birth mothers who choose to place their baby for newborn adoption may feel at ease as they typically have finalized their decision and adoption plan before giving birth. This allows birth mothers to not worry about the future of their child, especially if it is an unplanned pregnancy. More time can be focused on being healthy and having a safe delivery. A birth mother may or may not have communication with the adoptive family before or after birth, depending on the level of openness agreed upon in the adoption plan.

If you are an adoptive family interested and planning on newborn adoption, you will need to complete a few essential steps that Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can help you with. From an application, to a home study and placement, these are all part of the adoption journey. Newborn adoption will likely happen at the hospital and the baby will likely be under a month old once he or she is officially placed with you.

Infant Adoption

Infant adoption is when a birth mother places her baby for adoption who is between one and twelve months old. A birth mother’s decision to place her baby for infant adoption is completely valid for any reason, personal, and the choice she makes is for the best for her baby and herself. Sometimes, a birth mother may lose the emotional and financial support she had when her baby was born and can no longer provide for her baby. Maybe a birth mother and her partner or spouse are no longer together, making it difficult to raise their baby alone. It is important to remember that a birth mother’s commitment to placing her baby for adoption is a responsible one. Additionally, a birth mother who knows she can’t be there for her baby in all ways, and realizes adoption is a great choice for the future of her baby and herself, is a selfless decision that takes a lot of trust and courage.

If you are a birth mother and have taken the first step in deciding to place your baby for adoption, you can contact our adoption center to begin establishing an adoption plan. It is completely normal to have questions all throughout the process, and we want to work with you to make sure that placing your baby for adoption is a good experience for everyone involved.

As a birth mother, you will get to meet a birth parent counselor to discuss your options, including if you want to choose the parents who will adopt your baby. Also, you can decide whether you want it to be an open adoption, semi-open adoption or closed adoption agreement. You can do what you are comfortable with when it comes to the level of openness in the adoption plan. The transition you will go through after placing your baby for adoption will take time and we are here to provide you with support as you comprehend the choice you made.

Adoption can Have a Positive Outcome

Facing an unplanned pregnancy or struggling to support your baby for any reason is nothing to be ashamed of. Many birth mothers may not know that adoption is an option that can provide the best possible life for your baby. Whether you are pregnant or are raising your baby, newborn and infant adoption can be a blessing and a positive experience. It also is important to know that your adoption plan can be unique to you and your baby.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri will never pressure you to make a decision in your adoption plan that you do not feel comfortable making. We can offer you a supportive group of individuals to talk with you about your adoption plan without any of the surrounding stigma of adoption.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Melissa Benedek is currently a junior at Bard College in Annandale-on-Hudson, New York. She is a Literature major with interest in American regional writing. One of her on-campus jobs focuses on organizing volunteer opportunities with local partnerships for students. She is also a founding editor of Sonnet Literary Magazine based out of her college campus.

When not focused on academics, Melissa enjoys traveling into New York City to support independent bookstores and buy the best cookies at Levain Bakery.

Post Placement Services and Resources for Birth Mothers in Missouri and Kansas

Post Placement Services and Resources for Birth Mothers

Adoption is a beautiful concept inside and out. Deciding whether to place the baby up for adoption can be a difficult decision to make, but it is always worth something to make that decision. However, there are alway the emotions to deal with after the adoption that maybe you made the wrong decision and that you maybe have lost your child. Fortunately, there are post placement resources and support to help you out.

What Birth Mothers Should Expect Post Placement

If you are a birth mother who is struggling in post placement, you’re possibly trying very hard to navigate through the aftermath. It is natural for a birth mother to feel a mix of the physical and emotional factors from post placement. Here’s a list of symptoms that you might dealing with:

  • Guilt: it’s okay for a birth mother to feel guilty for placing her baby up for adoption, due to the negative connotations today that our society has conjured up. Feelings of shame and/or rejection are stirred, even if it was the best thing she could do for her child. It can be a difficult road to recovery, even if it was the right thing to do, and can take years.
  • Harsh self-criticism: some people will criticize you for wanting to give up the baby, but you need to remember that this was and always will be your decision – not theirs. The judgements and discouragements that you get lead to self-doubt and regretting the decision to put the baby up for adoption. But you have to look past all this, remind yourself that you made the right decision and move on.
  • Postpartum Depression (PPD): PPD is a mix of behavioral, physical, and emotional changes that you as a birth mother will experience after giving birth and it can occur anytime within four weeks of the birth delivery. Symptoms include hopelessness, suicidal thoughts, insomnia, eating problems, and the inadequacy of feeling needed.

Post Placement Support Resources

You will be asked so many times why you gave your child up for adoption and scrutinized for a long time. It is natural to pinpoint your exact emotions, take the time you need to grieve and recover and learn to see the positivity of your decisions. Most importantly, it is critical to find the support and resources that you need to get through the emotional aftermath of post placement.

When it comes to support resources, there are a few different options to consider. Online support resources are one way to go. The internet is a goldmine bringing people from all different walks of life together. Always remember that Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is here for you even after you give birth, sign relinquishment documents, and the adoption is final. We can provide counseling and support!

Support from Adoption Choices

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can also help you find the resources that are best suited for you. We have caring professionals who will give you accurate and non-judgemental answers and information about your options and answer all your questions in a respectful way.

The support you need is here to help you to decide what you want to do about your pregnancy. However, we encourage you to take the time you need to make a decision about adoption. When you’re ready — we will be there for you.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071

Meet the Author: Sofia Becker is currently a student at Liberty University and is majoring in a Bachelor of Science in History with a double minor in Biblical Studies and writing. She is currently working on a Robin Hood retelling and an entire epic fantasy world in the making. In her spare time, she loves watching The Officeand Disney movies.

Through her blogs, and her passion for helping and encouraging others, she hopes to make a difference in someone’s life. She also looks forward to becoming a better writer and editor. To learn more about Sofia, be sure to check out her blog and Instagram.

 

Baby Safe Haven or Adoption Plan: Choosing an Adoption Path that Works for You 

Baby Safe Haven or Adoption Plan: Choosing an Adoption Path that Works for You 

If you’re unexpectedly pregnant, you might be thinking about placing your baby for adoption. Maybe you aren’t able to care for a baby. Maybe you’re not ready to be a parent. Maybe you don’t want to be a parent (right now or ever). Whatever the reason, you are not alone: Birth mothers choose adoption for a variety of reasons.

When it comes to adoption, you have a couple of options to ensure that your baby ends up in a safe and caring home: a baby safe haven or an adoption plan.

Here’s what you need to know about these two different paths to adoption:

What is a Baby Safe Haven? 

A baby safe haven is a location where you can safely and legally leave your baby. Baby safe havens include hospitals, fire stations, police stations, ambulance stations, maternity homes and pregnancy centers. You must give your baby to a baby safe haven provider, which is a person who works or volunteers at one of these locations.

The baby safe haven provider will accept physical custody of your baby and ensure that your baby receives care. The baby safe haven provider will then notify the child welfare department, which will arrange for the adoption of your baby.

How the Baby Safe Haven Option Works in Missouri 

Here’s what you need to know about the Safe Place for Newborns Law in Missouri:

  • Your baby must be 45 days old (1.5 months) or younger.
  • Your baby must be unharmed and show no signs of abuse.
  • As a birth parent, you are guaranteed anonymity. You do not need to provide any identifying information about yourself or your baby. If you wish, you may disclose helpful health information.
  • When you leave your child with a baby safe haven provider, you permanently relinquish your parental rights and you consent to adoption.
  • If you safely and voluntarily leave your baby with a designated professional at a baby safe haven, you are protected from prosecution for child abandonment or child endangerment.

Here is the list of baby safe haven providers in Missouri:

  • Law enforcement officer
  • Firefighter
  • EMT (Emergency Medical Technician)
  • Hospital staff member or volunteer
  • Maternity home or pregnancy center staff member or volunteer

If you bring your baby to a location other than a hospital, your baby will be taken to the nearest hospital for medical treatment and care.

The Children’s Division of the Missouri Department of Social Services will ensure that your baby is placed with a loving and caring family.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is a baby safe haven. You can leave your baby with us at our agency located at: 4435 Main St. #920, Kansas City, MO.

Pros of the Baby Safe Haven Option in Missouri
  • You can safely leave your baby knowing that he or she will be protected and cared for.
  • You are protected from liability for child abandonment, neglect or endangerment.
  • You do not need to reveal your identity yourself or provide any information to anyone. No questions asked. No paperwork or contracts necessary.
  • Your baby will be safe and placed in a permanent home.

Creating Your Adoption Plan

An adoption plan involves figuring out your preferences for your baby’s adoption. You get to choose the family who adopts your baby. You get to choose how much you stay in touch with your child and the adoptive family.

  • Choosing an Adoption Arrangement:  It is up to you how involved you’ll be in your child’s life post-adoption. You decide how much contact you’ll have with your child and the adoptive parents. There are three types of adoption to choose from that vary in level of privacy and communication: closed, semi-open, and open. There are pros and cons to each type. There’s no right or wrong decision. You get to decide what works best for you.

Here are some questions to consider:

    • Do you want to keep your birth mother identity confidential?
    • Do you prefer to have no contact with the family who adopts your child? Or do you want to meet the adoptive family and communicate with them directly?
    • Do you want to receive updates about how your child is doing post-adoption? If so, how frequently?
  • Choosing a Family Type: You can think about what you want in an adoptive family. These are some characteristics to consider when choosing the family you think can provide the best life for your baby:
    • Family form and size: Do you want your baby to be adopted by a single parent? An LGBTQ family? A transracial family? Does it matter to you if the adoptive family already has children?
    • Lifestyle, culture and values: Where does the adoptive family live? What is their employment? What hobbies and interests do they have? What are their values and beliefs?
  • Choosing the Adoptive Family: Your adoption caseworker will show you profiles of families hoping to adopt. All adoptive parents have passed screening tests, interviews and background checks. They’ve also received adoption and parenting training.
    • You will look at pictures of the families and learn all about them. Then you will choose a family that matches what you’re looking for.

Remember, your Birth Parent Counselor will be there to help you make these choices.

Pros of an Adoption Plan
  • You are involved throughout the entire adoption process.
  • You select the family that will adopt your baby.
  • You can control how much contact you have with the adoptive family and your child.
  • Your baby will be loved and cared for in a permanent home.

Baby Safe Haven or Adoption Plan

Whatever adoption choice you make, your baby will be safe and end up in a stable and loving family. At Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, we are here for you as you make decisions about your unplanned pregnancy, whether you want to bring your newborn to a baby safe haven or develop an adoption plan.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Zoë Bowlus, a writing and editing enthusiast, considers herself a grammar groupie and suffers from a weakness for wordplay and working with words, whether she is reading, furiously typing away, playing Words with Friends, or filling in the Sunday New York Times crossword puzzle.

She was adopted from Vietnam as a baby and began exploring her adoptee identity in Asian American Studies and Communication courses at UC Santa Barbara. As she combed through adoption literature for her last essay of college (she graduated with highest honors in 2020), she was inspired to use the research, editing, and writing skills she developed in college and her personal experience to create resources and share stories about adoption in a professional context. Writing for Adoption Choices, Zoë hopes to support people on their adoption journeys and to grow as an adoptee herself.

Zoë is an aspiring cat lady who is allergic to cats. She enjoys curling up with homemade hot chocolate, kettle corn, and a good book but laments the absence of a feline reading companion. Her bedside table and bookshelves are overflowing with World War II historical fiction, Asian American and Mexico-U.S. borderlands fiction, contemporary fiction, grammar and style books, and collections of profiles. She spends an inordinate amount of time playing bridge.

An avid NBA fan, Zoë lives in Sacramento, the primary reason anyone would root for the Kings. She holds out hope that they will make it to the playoffs during her lifetime.

Virtual Resources to Connect with Your Child and Your Chosen Adoptive Family

Virtual Resources to Connect with Your Child and Your Chosen Adoptive Family

You’ve given birth to your child. Now, you are preparing to give your baby to his or her new adoptive family. The inevitable thought that will run through your mind will most likely be: what will communication be like between you and your child from now on?

Communication with your child will be important because depending on the type of plan you choose, whether it be an open, semi-open or closed adoption, this will determine how you and your child will be able to connect with one another over time.

You will need to be ready to adapt to how your child will communicate and interact with you.

But, you should not worry about a thing, because, even though your child will be with your chosen adoptive family, he or she will still be able to communicate with you via video chatting applications such as FaceTime, ZOOM and Skype. If you are still hesitant about adoption, and want to know more about the process and how communication works, you should contact either a caseworker, social worker or counselor at Adoption Choices of Kansas. Here, we will be happy to assist you with any questions, comments or concerns you may have. In addition, when your pride and joy grows up, you will be able to use other virtual resources to connect with your child and your child’s adoptive family through various social media platforms.

Options You Can Use for an Open or Semi-Open Adoption

If you are looking to pursue an open adoption with your child and your chosen adoptive family, then utilizing all of these platforms to communicate with each other will be vital. By using FaceTime, ZOOM and Skype, this allows you to be able to fully communicate with your child wherever they are. You will be able to see your child, hear their voice, communicate with him or her and, most importantly, connect with them. You and your child will be able to talk about how your lives have been since your adoption process was approved. In addition, you will be able to stay in contact with your child’s adoptive family. This is important for you, because, this way, the family will be able to update you on your child’s progress and how they are doing.

You will be able to communicate with your child, and their adoptive parents on a regular basis so the connection, and the bond shared between you and your child will remain strong, and intact.

If you are looking to pursue a semi-open adoption, then the best virtual resources that you can utilize to connect you with your child and your child’s adoptive family will be through email or calling your child on the phone. A mediator from Adoption Choices of Kansas will relay your messages to your chosen adoptive family, and vise-versa, through making indirect contact with both parties. Both the possibilities of being able to communicate and connect with your child will be possible, but will be limited.

Another helpful application we at Adoption Choices of Kansas use as a virtual resource to connect with your child and your child’s adoptive family is ChildConnect. Through this service, you will be able to receive and send messages via photos or pictures, and obtain updates on what your child has been up to lately. All of this will be given through a private, confidential portal. This platform allows for increased communication between you, your child and your chosen adoption family.

You will be able to utilize both older, and newer ways of communication in order to connect with your child, and their chosen adoptive family. This way, you know you will always be connected with your child, somehow, someway.

Other forms of communication that are applicable for you to use to connect with your child are, simply calling them over the phone, writing and exchanging emails with them, as well as leaving voicemail or voice messages for each other to listen to. One other popular video chatting application is WhatsApp. While you will be able to video chat with your baby, you’ll still be able to exchange messages or call one another.

This will allow you to stay connected with your child wherever they are, wherever they go with their new adoptive family. Your communication with your baby is important, and with WhatsApp, you’ll be able to connect with them anywhere in the United States, and around the world.

What Forms of Social Media can You Use?

As prefaced earlier, you will be able to use various social media platforms to get in touch with your child. Mainly, the best ones for you to use will be Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram and Facebook Messenger.

Each of these resources utilize various forms of communication, and allows you to be able to connect with your child easily. Individually, each application serves a specific purpose so you can connect with your child directly.

With Snapchat, you will be able to exchange messages, photos, short videos, and your “stories” — a series of short videos meshed into one, long timeline —  with your baby, so you will be able to stay in touch with him or her.
When using Facebook…you have the ability to share, send, “like”, “tag” and comment on photos and videos between you, your child, and your chosen adoptive family. You can add this to your arsenal of ways in which you will be able to communicate with your child, and maintain your special connection together.
With Instagram, by “following” each other, you, your child and your chosen adoptive family will be able to post and share photos and videos with one another. Furthermore, you will be able to share and “tag” your stories with one another, which are a compilation of your photos and videos, with your child and his or her adoptive family.
Lastly, in the case of Facebook Messenger, you, the birth mother, your child and your adoptive family can send text messages, photos, and videos to each other. You are also able to video chat with your child, and be able to both see, and speak to them.
There are many, convenient resources available for you to use whenever you are getting in touch with your child. Your communication with them will never be lost, and you will always have a virtual resource readily available for you to contact your child.

As a result, you and your child will be able to maintain a strong relationship, and you’ll be able to contact your baby’s adoptive parents to provide you with updates on them.

You Will Never Lose Contact With Your Child

Despite the fact that you are giving your pride and joy to another family, even though communication will be different between you and your child, the ways in which you can connect with each other are endless! You will always be connected together!

Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more!
Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071

Meet the Author: Andrew William Orihuela is a bilingual graduating senior from Hofstra University who loves writing and helping others. He can be found working in the kitchen as well. Helping others and journalism have always been strong passions of his since he was young. As a hard-working college student, Andrew has spent his last four years writing and gaining experience within the journalism field, producing works for both print and broadcast journalism. He gained recognition for his latest works becoming a member of the Lambda Pi Eta Communications National Honor Society in 2018. He also gained experience in writing for broadcast television and radio from creating news and sports story packages.

From working in sports and news radio, he helped his award-winning college radio station, WRHU Radio Hofstra University, to become a three-time National Association of Broadcasters Marconi award-winning station within the United States in 2019, which is given to the best college station in the country.

When he is not writing stories, Andrew enjoys cooking, helping around the house, going for walks, working out, watching sports on television and relaxing with his family and pets. He lives in New Jersey with his Mom and his extended family.

How Harmful is Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking while Pregnant?

How Harmful is Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking while Pregnant?

Pregnancies can cause all sorts of stresses and anxiety for all birth mothers alike. During a pandemic, an unplanned pregnancy could make these stresses worse. Some birth mothers may turn to a support system for help, while others may not seek help at all. One of the worst possible things that a birth mother can do to respond to stress, however, is turning to substances like alcohol, drugs and smoking while pregnant.

Not only do all of these things have harmful effects on you in general, but can have even worse ones during pregnancy as well. If you find yourself experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you may want to know just how bad these effects are and what they can do to your baby. Especially as a birth mother who is placing her baby for adoption and hoping to find a nurturing and loving home for them.

Disclaimer:The information in this blog is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not meant to be taken as medical advice. Please consult with your doctor, OBGYN or nutritionist if you have any questions or concerns regarding your specific pregnancy and health history.

How Harmful is Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking while Pregnant?

1) Alcohol and Pregnancy

Alcohol is considered to be a depressant. In other words, it can force your heart rate to slow, which immediately affects the baby and their heart rate. This, in turn, can harm your baby’s development. Studies show that drinking alcohol while pregnant can increase your risk of stillbirth, miscarriage and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Alcohol can also cause facial deformities or mental disabilities. These effects impact your baby for the rest of his or her life. It isn’t something that stops or can be cured after they are born.

Alcohol affects your baby and their development immediately. This is no grace period. However, if you had a drink or two before you found out you were pregnant — don’t panic! Everything will be ok. Just be sure not to have any more alcohol from that point on. If you are struggling with alcohol addiction in any way, don’t hesitate to speak with one of our caseworkers. We have resources and counseling services available to help.

While there is a lot of controversy surrounding alcohol and pregnancy, it’s recommended that you stop drinking alcohol as soon as you find out you’re pregnant. Be sure to consult with your doctor about any questions or concerns that you have with this.

2) Drugs and Pregnancy

Drugs — both legal and illegal –are considered to be stimulants. Taking them can give you a rush of adrenaline or make you feel high. Illegal drugs, such as cocaine and methamphetamine (meth), are very harmful to your baby’s development. Babies who have been exposed to drugs are at a higher risk of birth defects, damage to the urinary tract or heart, premature birth and low birthweight. Brain damage and the potential of a stroke within the womb are also possible.

Prescription and over the counter medications are still considered drugs, but are a different story. While the effects of these on your baby’s development are not as well-known, if you need to take certain medications while you are pregnant, be sure to consult with your doctor. They will be your best resource and will do all they can to ensure that you and your baby remain safe and healthy.

3) Smoking and Pregnancy

Smoking, cigarettes or otherwise, has its own dangers regarding your pregnancy journey. Research shows that smoking while pregnant can increase the risk of health issues with your baby including, but not limited to: premature birth, low birthweight, cleft lip and palate and other birth defects. It also raises the risk of your baby developing and suffering from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).

Two of the active ingredients in cigarettes are nicotine and hydrogen cyanide. The smoke that emits from the cigarettes is tobacco, which is composed of carbon monoxide and other harmful substances. All of these materials are detrimental to your baby’s development, health and safety. Birth mothers who smoke while pregnant often experience placenta problems, which provides nutrients to your baby in the womb. If the placenta becomes compromised in any way, so does your baby.

So, How Harmful is Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking while Pregnant?

Extremely! The three things mentioned above are non-exhaustive, but very important to keep in mind. If you are a birth mother looking to place your baby for adoption, we hope that this resource provides a helpful tool in showing you how to have the healthiest and safest pregnancy — for both you and your baby.

Birth defects can cause everlasting, negative effects to your baby. Remember, though, that if you are struggling with an addiction, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is here to help. One of our key goals is to ensure that your baby is born happy and healthy. We care about you and your baby’s health and we do not want to see either of you in immediate harm of any kind.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more!
Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071

Meet the Author: Jason Legasse is a rising senior English major studying at Siena Collegein Loudonville, New York. He hails from the Albany, New York area, but has plans to relocate to sunny Venice, Florida with his mom come Fall. After completing his bachelor’s degree, Jason plans to study General Special Education at Meredith College, where he will earn a Master’s degree and use that to teach middle school Special Education.

Jason is a self-proclaimed introvert with Asperger’s who really enjoys writing. He has a huge passion for helping others, specifically those with disabilities. He is very excited to be working with Adoption Choices over the summer, and looks forward to learning more about the adoption process!

 

 

3 Ways to Bond With Your Child’s Adoptive Parents

Ways to Bond With Your Child’s Adoptive Parents

With technology today, the ability to keep in contact with others is easier than ever before. We can befriend, follow and message people with just a few clicks and a send. Yet, at the same time, the idea of reaching out to others and knowing what to say can still be a daunting task. But that’s okay, as long as what you’re saying is coming from the heart.

Technology works very much the same way when it comes to keeping in touch with your child’s adoptive parents. Especially if you have an open adoption or semi-open adoption agreement, it’s important to establish a strong and healthy relationship with your child’s adoptive parents throughout the adoption journey. This way, after the adoption has been finalized, you can have contact with your child and see how he or she is doing from a comfortable distance.

There are several ways to keep open communication and grow a relationship with your child’s adoptive parents. Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri has a few ideas. If you need help now, please Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071

Bonding with Your Child’s Adoptive Parents Virtually:  

  • Video Chats 

Video calls using ZOOM, Google Meet and other video software are being used more, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s a great way to keep in contact with others and see their faces as you’re talking to them. You can set up times to video chat with the adoptive parents while maintaining a relationship with the family. Watching your child grow up and feeling as though you’re maintaining a healthy is definitely a win-win.

  • Phone Calls and Text Messages

Another way to go is to set up regular phone calls. This is especially helpful if, for whatever reason, you or the adoptive parents don’t feel as comfortable with video chats or can’t access them easily. Either way, phone calls and/or text messages are a great way to check in with the family. If there is a missed call or text message, it can easily be returned when you have a free moment. There is no pressure attached.  

  • Email and Letters 

Although these may be the slowest form of communication, they both still work very well. Both email and “snail mail” letters allow the adoptive parents to have and keep hard copies of the letters they can share with the child at a later date. They can also send you letters, updates and pictures of special moments that you’d want to see. This permits both you and your child’s adoptive parents to bond and keep in touch  without having to keep consistent communication.

Ways to Bond with Your Child’s Adoptive Parents

Fortunately, there are so many ways that you can keep in contact with your child’s adoptive parents. The virtual ways mentioned above are great places to start. We know that it will never replace in person meetings and get togethers, but having these ways to bond with your child’s adoptive parents during these challenging times does provide a great temporary solution.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more!
Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071

Meet the Author: Gabrielle Willis is a lover of writing and knowledge, which shows in her everyday life. She graduated with a Bachelors in English in 2013, and recently graduated with a Masters in Creative Writing. She has also worked in the education sector for over 10 years, recently becoming a Literacy Tutor. At her core, her passion is reading and writing, and she loves sharing that with others.

She enjoys helping those considering adoption or going through the adoption process any way she can. This internship opportunity truly resonated with her and she hopes that her words will connect and inspire everyone who reads them.

How COVID-19 has Impacted Adoption Communities in Kansas

How COVID-19 has Impacted Adoption Communities in Kansas

COVID-19, also known as the coronavirus, is wreaking havoc on all human life. This virus may also be causing you, the birth mother, to rethink your plans to place your baby for adoption. But, despite the global pandemic we are facing, the process of adoption is still possible for you!

At Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, we are determined to help you with your choice of adoption as much as we can, and in the safest way possible. If you, the birth mother, are able to complete the process of putting your child up for adoption pre-pandemic, then your child should be able to spend time with their adoptive family sooner, rather than later. However, if you are a birth mother who is going through the steps during this time, there are still multiple ways in which you will be able to complete the process.

Today, we want to share with you how COVID-19 has impacted adoption communities in Kansas.

Hospital Experience will Change for Birth Mothers

With hospitals starting to become increasingly restrictive due to the rise of the coronavirus outbreak, birth mothers going through the adoption process still are able to deliver their baby safely. However, some things will look different. This will vary from hospital to hospital, so it’s important to call ahead and learn of any extra safety precautions your hospital is taking. Know that this may feel more stressful, but that the hospital staff is trying to ensure that both you and your baby remain safe throughout your stay. One of the biggest changes in your hospital experience regards visitors. Birth mothers will have to limit the amount of people who come and visit or stay with them to one person. This way, both you and your baby will be safer, as will the adoptive parent or birthing partner who is there with you.

In addition, the approved visitor will need to go through and pass the hospital’s required screening process to ensure everyone’s health and safety. Your child’s adoptive parents may or may not be allowed to experience the moment of birth or those thereafter with you as pre-pandemic. However, the hospital does have a process in place where your baby will be safely delivered to them at an appointed time.

The Adoption Process Changes for the Birth Mothers

During this pandemic, we are operating virtually. So, when you begin your adoption journey with us, your caseworker will get in contact with you via virtual resources such as FaceTime, ZOOM or Skype. All the necessary paperwork and adoptive parent profile books will be exchanged via email. This may not be the same as a face to face journey would be, but we will do our best to make it as authentic as possible — even from virtual means. When you have selected your child’s adoptive family, any and all contact will happen virtually as well through similar programs as aforementioned. Because our physical offices are closed, we are not able to facilitate in person meetings at this time. If you wish to meet your child’s adoptive parents in person, we strongly recommend you all closely follow CDC guidelines: wash your hands, wear a facemask and practice safe social distancing measures. We understand how important communication and establishing a strong, healthy relationship between you and the adoptive parents are through the adoption process. Yet, your health and safety — and that of the adoptive parents and our staff — is our top priority. We are closely adhering to the CDC guidelines until told differently. We are operating virtually. So, when you begin your adoption journey with us, your caseworker will be more than happy to help you complete the process.

Adoption Is Still Possible Right Now

Even though we are going through a global pandemic right now, adoption is still an option for you! If you are a birth mother wanting to place her baby for adoption during this challenging time — you still can. Adoption Choices of Kansas can be reached via our website where we are very much open and available to support you anyway we can. You can also call or text us:
Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071

Due to COVID, there are some aspects of the adoption process that may or may not be delayed. Because everything is happening virtually now, it may take a bit longer for communications to happen between either your caseworker or the adoptive parents. Our staff is working diligently to provide the best and most efficient service possible, but we do ask that you remain as patient as you can. We are still here for you, and we value your choice in working with us. We will keep you as updated as possible every step of the way.

How COVID-19 has Impacted Adoption Communities in Kansas

Despite the uncertainty and unpredictability of the pandemic, the adoption community is still going strong. Our agency is open and fully-functioning, and we have no intention of closing down completely. So, placing your baby for adoption is still, and always will be, an option.

With stay-at-home orders in effect, this allows you more time to get to know your child’s adoptive parents virtually (should you choose an open adoption). This, in turn, will provide you with the opportunity to establish a strong and healthy relationship with them — just as you would face to face. We are all adapting to our sense of normal, but that will never eliminate the option to place your child in a loving and safe home.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more!
Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071

Meet the Author: Andrew William Orihuela is a bilingual graduating senior from Hofstra University who loves writing and helping others. He can be found working in the kitchen as well. Helping others and journalism have always been strong passions of his since he was young. As a hard-working college student, Andrew has spent his last four years writing and gaining experience within the journalism field, producing works for both print and broadcast journalism. He gained recognition for his latest works becoming a member of the Lambda Pi Eta Communications National Honor Society in 2018. He also gained experience in writing for broadcast television and radio from creating news and sports story packages.

From working in sports and news radio, he helped his award-winning college radio station, WRHU Radio Hofstra University, to become a three-time National Association of Broadcasters Marconi award-winning station within the United States in 2019, which is given to the best college station in the country.

When he is not writing stories, Andrew enjoys cooking, helping around the house, going for walks, working out, watching sports on television and relaxing with his family and pets. He lives in New Jersey with his Mom and his extended family.

 

Reasons Birth Mothers Choose Adoption 

Reasons Birth Mothers Choose Adoption 

You’re pregnant, and you weren’t planning on it. Everything is going to be ok. Take a deep breath. You can make an adoption plan that works for you.

You may be experiencing a jumble of confusing emotions right now. That’s natural. There is a lot to consider, but figuring out what to do next is entirely up to you. Maybe you don’t feel ready to raise a child or you don’t want to be a parent. Maybe you don’t want to terminate your pregnancy. Or, perhaps, you don’t think you have the support to care for a baby.

If you’re unsure how to proceed with your pregnancy, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is here to help. Today, we are going to discuss some of the reasons birth mothers choose adoption.

If you aren’t ready to be a parent… 

Maybe the timing isn’t right for a baby. You may want to be a parent someday, just not right now.

If you’re in your teens, you may not feel prepared to take on the responsibility of raising a child. If you don’t have access to childcare, you may worry about how you’d be able to graduate from high school or hold a job andtake care of your baby.

If you’re in college, you may feel like juggling the demands of both parenting and earning a degree would be too much to handle.

Maybe you’re focused on your career at this point in your life, and you fear that starting a family now would mean sacrificing your success in the work world.

If you don’t want to be a parent…

Maybe you don’t have any desire to have a baby, now or ever. You might feel that a baby will affect your lifestyle, career trajectory, or long-term goals.

If you’re an older mother, you might be afraid that you aren’t physically able to take care of a baby. You may want your baby to be raised by younger parents instead.

If you don’t want to be a single parent…

You may not want to raise a child without a partner. Maybe the birth father is not willing to support the baby. Or, perhaps, he is not in the picture at all.

You may understandably feel overwhelmed by the idea of being a single mom. You are unsure how you’ll be able to provide for a baby on a single income. You fear that parenting and holding a job will stretch you too thin. Maybe you’d prefer to raise a child in a two-parent household.

If you don’t have the resources to raise a child… 

You may not be able to give your baby financial stability. You may not feel like you can provide your child with the resources they need to thrive.

You might hope that an adoptive family would be able to give your child an improved quality of life that you wouldn’t be able to provide.

If you’re already worried about your finances right now, you may be even more worried when faced with the costs of raising a child.

If you live in an unsafe environment… 

You may be concerned about exposing your baby to an unstable and unhealthy environment. Is the birth father abusive? Do you have a partner or spouse who is abusive? Do you live with people who are violent? If so, you might worry that you can’t give your child a safe home.

If you don’t want to expand your family…

Maybe you already have children and find yourself unexpectedly pregnant. You may not have the emotional energy to care for another child you weren’t planning for — or the financial resources. An unplanned pregnancy might affect your ability to provide financially, physically and emotionally for your existing children.

If you don’t have your family’s support… 

Perhaps your family members aren’t supportive of your pregnancy. They may not be willing to help you financially, offer childcare or be there for you emotionally. You may be scared to raise a child if your family doesn’t have your back.

If you’re incarcerated…

You may worry about what life will look like for your child if you’re in prison. You might feel that taking care of your child during your incarceration is going to be too hard. If you’re pregnant and incarcerated, you can arrange for adoption. See our blog post here for more information about your adoption options from prison.

If you are unable to raise a child…

If you have a physical or mental disability or a major health problem, you might worry that parenting will be too difficult for you.

If any of these reasons birth mothers choose adoptionspeak to you…

You may want to choose adoption yourself. Every birth mother’s situation is unique. As you can see, the reasons birth mothers choose adoptionvary. By choosing adoption, you are making the decision to guarantee security, stability and opportunities for their child.

Whatever your circumstances, adoption is a possibility for you and your baby. At Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, we are here to support you with compassion and respect, no matter what choice you make. We offer non-judgmental counseling to birth mothers of all backgrounds.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071

Meet the Author: Zoë Bowlus, a writing and editing enthusiast, considers herself a grammar groupie and suffers from a weakness for wordplay and working with words, whether she is reading, furiously typing away, playing Words with Friends, or filling in the Sunday New York Times crossword puzzle.

She was adopted from Vietnam as a baby and began exploring her adoptee identity in Asian American Studies and Communication courses at UC Santa Barbara. As she combed through adoption literature for her last essay of college (she graduated with highest honors in 2020), she was inspired to use the research, editing, and writing skills she developed in college and her personal experience to create resources and share stories about adoption in a professional context. Writing for Adoption Choices, Zoë hopes to support people on their adoption journeys and to grow as an adoptee herself.

Zoë is an aspiring cat lady who is allergic to cats. She enjoys curling up with homemade hot chocolate, kettle corn, and a good book but laments the absence of a feline reading companion. Her bedside table and bookshelves are overflowing with World War II historical fiction, Asian American and Mexico-U.S. borderlands fiction, contemporary fiction, grammar and style books, and collections of profiles. She spends an inordinate amount of time playing bridge.

An avid NBA fan, Zoë lives in Sacramento, the primary reason anyone would root for the Kings. She holds out hope that they will make it to the playoffs during her lifetime.

Choosing Adoption as a Birth Mother in College

Choosing Adoption as a Birth Mother in College

You’ve just started college. You’re also on your own for the first time, and decide to see what college life and being independent is all about. Some of your college friends or roommates invite you out to a party, which you happily agree to. A few weeks later, you realize you’re late on your monthly cycle. Then, you start waking up feeling like you caught the flu. You take a pregnancy test and stare into one of your worst fears — you’re pregnant. What are you going to do?

Deciding how to handle a pregnancy, especially an unplanned one, is scary. It feels like the world has turned upside down. As if you’re the only one in the world and no one will understand what you are going through

But we have good news. You are not alone! You have options available and a support system ready to surround you the moment you ask. Adoption Choices of Missouriis here to support you in any we can. Here is how you can go about choosing adoption as a birth mother in college.

Deciding How to Handle Your Unplanned Pregnancy

The first decision that you have to make about your unplanned pregnancy is deciding what you’d like to do about your unplanned pregnancy. There are three options available: parent your child, terminate your pregnancy or place your child up for adoption.

1) Parent Your Child

If you decide to parent the child, then you have to figure out how you’re going to raise the child. This includes doing research on what kind of parenting classes you would need to take. These classes are found on the internet, and are important educational and informational resources for you on parenthood. Make sure to thoroughly research each class option, though, so you don’t get caught up in a scam.

2) Terminate Your Pregnancy

If you don’t feel ready to parent your child, your second option is to terminate your pregnancy. With this, remember that laws vary by state on what is considered legal and illegal. For instance, in the state of Missouri, termination is prohibited after 8 weeks. Before termination can occur, you must receive state-directed counseling and then wait 72 hours before you are eligible for the procedure. Insurance, both private and public, will only cover the procedure if there’s evidence that the birth mother’s life is in danger.

3) Place Your Baby for Adoption

Your third option is to place the baby up for adoption.This allows you to give your child their best chance at life. To choose an adoptive family to raise him or her, and to ensure their safety and security. Also, to choose the level of openness you want. There are three options to choose from: open, semi-open and closed.

We understand that picking an adoption agency can be tricky. So, be sure to take all the time you need to research the adoption agencies in your area and see who aligns the best with what you are looking for. Each and every agency will vary slightly. At our agency, you will be treated with the utmost respect and lots of compassion. Our well-trained staff of professionals offer the most nonjudgmental, empowering and positive adoption experience possible. We will walk with you every step of the way and make sure that both you and your baby are well looked after.

Choosing Adoption as a Birth Mother in College

Discovering that you are pregnant in college can be overwhelming. What’s more, deciding what to do on top of a school load isn’t easy either. But don’t worry. It isn’t the end of the world, and you are not alone. Adoption is an option no matter how late you are in your pregnancy. However, the earlier you contact our agency, the sooner we can help you begin your adoption journey.

At Adoption Choices of Missouri, placing your baby for adoption comes at no cost to you. If you are in need of financial assistance, prenatal care or temporary housing, your adoption caseworker will help you through that and see what you are eligible for.

Always remember that adoption is an option for you, no matter what. Adoption Choices of Missourihas three different levels of openness for your adoption plan — open, semi-open and closed. It’s a big step into this wide and vast world of adoption and adoption agencies, and can be scary, but remember that we are here for you no matter what.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071

Meet the Author: Sofia Becker is currently a student at Liberty University and is majoring in a Bachelor of Science in History with a double minor in Biblical Studies and writing. She is currently working on a Robin Hood retelling and an entire epic fantasy world in the making. In her spare time, she loves watching The Officeand Disney movies.

Through her blogs, and her passion for helping and encouraging others, she hopes to make a difference in someone’s life. She also looks forward to becoming a better writer and editor. To learn more about Sofia, be sure to check out her blog and Instagram.

How to have a Healthy Pregnancy before Adoption

How to have a Healthy Pregnancy before Adoption

Whether you are going through an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy and are thinking about adoption for your child, having a healthy pregnancy is important. You may be going through several emotions finding out you are pregnant and making the decision of adoption. Pregnancy and adoption cannot be understated because they are life-changing moments and choices. It is valid to feel overwhelmed, stressed or anxious when coming to terms with being pregnant and the steps you decide to take for your future. Through it all, it is essential that you maintain your physical, mental and emotional health for you and your baby. This week Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri will be discussing how to have a healthy pregnancy before adoption.

Remember that you do not have to make every decision alone, and that we can walk you through all of your options, so you can do what is best for you. Whether you decide to choose adoption for your baby or not, we can be there for you. Let’s discuss some ways to have a healthy pregnancy before adoption.

Establish an Adoption Plan 

As your mind is connected to your body, thinking about adoption often while your pregnant can bring on added stress and anxiety to an already overwhelming situation. Establishing an adoption plan can be a good way to relieve additional stress and let you focus on the wellbeing of you and your baby. Planning for the next steps after the birth of your baby, will help to prepare you for the start of your adoption journey.

If you are pregnant and looking to make an adoption plan, you can contact us and we can discuss the specifics of your decision such as the type of adoption agreement you want for your child and more. Having questions or concerns about making an adoption plan is normal, and we are here to help answer all of them to the best of our ability.

Stay on Track with Prenatal Care

An important part of having a healthy pregnancy before adoption is being mindful of prenatal care. When pregnant, taking care of yourself physically is essential for the baby’s development throughout every trimester up until birth. An expectant mother should not consume alcohol or any drugs, because they pose serious health risks for both the baby and mother, such as birth defects or miscarriage. There are also a few foods you should not eat while pregnant like raw fish and caffeine, among others.

Having consistent and balanced meals to provide significant nutrition for yourself and your baby is necessary and beneficial. In addition to eating healthy, it is important to take prenatal vitamins, especially during your first trimester when critical growth happens for your baby. When you buy prenatal vitamins at your pharmacy, look for ones with folic acid, iron, calcium and vitamin D.

Keep Active

During your pregnancy, staying active can help relieve and be an outlet for stress. Depending on if you were active before your pregnancy, you may be able to continue with your workout routine, but check with your healthcare provider to be sure. Exercising regularly while pregnant does not have to be a rigorous workout that includes heavy weight-lifting. Physical activities such as walking, jogging, yoga and pilates are good to practice during your pregnancy. Keeping active can help prepare your body for labor as it changes during pregnancy, prevent health complications of your baby, and helps to manage back pain that develops in the mother when pregnant.

Always be hydrated before, during and after exercise and eat enough food for you and your baby for the calories you may burn. Try not to push yourself too hard with exercise while pregnant and ask your doctor what they think of certain physical activities, even if you think that they are okay to practice.

Go to Doctor Appointments

Seeing your doctor during pregnancy is important because they are there to make sure you and your baby are healthy. It is important that you feel comfortable with your doctor to ask any questions or share any concerns, as they can offer answers and provide resources. Your doctor wants what is best for you and your baby, including if you have made the decision for adoption after birth. If going to the doctor during your pregnancy is anxiety provoking, maybe try to go with someone who can support you.

During your first visit with your doctor while pregnant, they will ask about your individual and family health history, perform tests and ask additional questions.

Talk about How You are Feeling

As you go through many physical changes while pregnant, you may also go through emotional changes. Changes may feel like they are happening fast and you should talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. Keeping your emotions bottled up can cause further stress and negative emotions to be present.

During pregnancy, remember you are not alone. Reach out and share your emotions, whether they are good or bad, and talk about them. See what you can do to practice self-care whether it be journaling, cooking, listening to music or finding affirmations to say to yourself, among other activities. Being healthy emotionally and mentally is essential while pregnant and while not pregnant.

These are some ways that can help you to have a health pregnancy before adoption. As you prepare to bring a new life into the world and start your adoption journey, remember to care for yourself and that Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is here for you every step of the way.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071

Meet the Author: Melissa Benedek is currently a junior at Bard College in Annandale-on-Hudson, New York. She is a Literature major with interest in American regional writing. One of her on-campus jobs focuses on organizing volunteer opportunities with local partnerships for students. She is also a founding editor of Sonnet Literary Magazine based out of her college campus.

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