Adoption Choices Appreciates Jason Legasse

National Intern Day

Today is National Intern Day!! And Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is sending a special THANK YOU to our writing interns. National Intern Day was created to recognize all the college students and graduates testing the professional waters across the country as interns. Internships offer future business leaders the experience they need to succeed in their related field.

Interns with Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri research, write, and share valuable information, tips, advice, news, stories, and more for our adoption network! Given several adoption topics to choose from, they spend hours collecting the most up to date, essential information and build an article. It’s more than just an article though, it’s a tool for birth mothers and adoptive families to be able to find Adoption Choices on the web, share resources, connect within the adoption community, and help understand the adoption process. We are sending Jason Legasse a great big THANK YOU– today and everyday for all the hard work you share with us!

Hello! My name is Jason Legasse, and I am a 20 year old undergraduate student originally from Clifton Park, NY. I moved this past Summer to Venice, Florida with my mom and dog to escape the Winters, and we absolutely love it so far! I attend Siena College in Loudonville, NY, which is a small, franciscan liberal arts college with approximately 3,000 undergraduates, and around 100 graduate students. Although it is a very small college, it is an extremely well-known college in New York, and many students attend from nearby states like Massachusetts, to far away states like California! Siena has an amazing reputation, and I am incredibly grateful to attend such an amazing small school that truly wants to see all of its students do amazing things upon graduation!

I will be graduating from Siena this December, and am then planning to attend Meredith College in Raleigh, North Carolina, to earn my M.A.T. (Master’s of Arts in Teaching degree)  in General Special Education! Graduating from a four year school in two and a half years has been a major challenge, but I feel like taking some extra steps to achieve that goal has been well worth it! I was very motivated, and took as many as six classes a semester, recently obtaining a 3.38 GPA for my Spring 2020 semester. I know that I will be very young when I enter graduate school this January, but I am ready for whatever challenges come my way, and I can’t wait to be certified to teach in North Carolina!

I was not originally planning to teach special education. My heart was set on teaching English, until a few things came to mind. I knew that I wanted to teach a smaller class, and I knew that I may feel myself being stressed out with having potentially 150 kids a year, like at my high school. Having a disability myself, I wanted to help students that are struggling with their disability, or lack self-confidence. I want them to know that they can do anything they put their mind to, and I feel like I would be an amazing teacher for any student. However, I chose to continue with my English degree, because I know that any future employer is seeking skills that most English majors possess, such as critical thinking. I am also very interested in co-teaching English, after having been in a co-taught English class, when I was in 11th grade. Co-teaching is when there is one special education teacher, and one general education teacher in the same classroom. They teach the same class for the entire year, and typically both students with disabilities, and students in the general education setting are in the classroom. Not only is this an amazing idea that worked out well for me, personally, but it helped to promote inclusion. Including students with disabilities in our general education settings is extremely important, and I am a huge advocate for it. That class was by far one of my favorites, and I feel that it was because the teachers not only worked well together, but as a student with a disability, it did not feel like my disability was there. It was such an amazing experience, and I hope that I can introduce co-teaching to the school that I get hired at! I think co-teaching is very underlooked, and something that should be introduced in more schools. I can’t wait to introduce that change to my future middle school, and I look forward to seeing how that change will progress overtime!

I feel like all of my life, I have struggled both internally, and externally with myself. However, I feel that doing things like partaking in this internship with Adoption Choices has helped me to not only become a better writer, but to also learn more about adoption. I know that as a future teacher, that I will have students in my class who are adopted, and I want to be able to support them in any way that I can. I have learned so much through my short time with Adoption Choices, and I know that I will take what I have learned, and use it for the rest of my life. Coming into my internship, all that I really knew about adoption was that it was a choice for birth mothers, and basically whatever happened happened. Through my time in this internship, I learned that this is very far from the truth. There are a wide variety of birth mothers, and adoptive families that have been through a lot. No two situations are the same, and that’s what makes the adoption process so interesting and wonderful. Adoption is so much more than what I thought it was, and I would encourage anybody to partake in this internship, regardless of the level of knowledge they may have about adoption. I will be a better teacher because of my time writing for Adoption Choices, and I know that I can be able to better understand anyone that is having a tough time with their adoption, regardless of their age. Thank you to Rachel, Lisa, Patience, and the entire team of Adoption Choices, for allowing me this amazing opportunity to write for such a wonderful organization! I will never forget about my time, and I look forward to helping others who have been adopted!

Thank you so much for taking the time to read about me! I cannot wait to see where life takes me next!

“Keep Smiling”, Jason Legasse

As we look ahead to a brighter future for our world and our companies, we know that this new generation of students and graduates will help get us there. If you or someone you know is interested in writing for Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, we are regularly accepting interns. Our interns research and share 1-3 articles a week to be published across our adoption network. Internships with Adoption Choices offer future business leaders the experience they need and provide hands-on editorial experience.

Once again, thank you Jason!!

 

Adoption Choices Appreciates Melissa Benedek

National Intern Day

Today is National Intern Day!! And Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is sending a special THANK YOU to our writing interns. National Intern Day was created to recognize all the college students and graduates testing the professional waters across the country as interns. Internships offer future business leaders the experience they need to succeed in their related field.

Interns with Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri research, write, and share valuable information, tips, advice, news, stories, and more for our adoption network! Given several adoption topics to choose from, they spend hours collecting the most up to date, essential information and build an article. It’s more than just an article though, it’s a tool for birth mothers and adoptive families to be able to find Adoption Choices on the web, share resources, connect within the adoption community, and help understand the adoption process. We are sending Melissa Benedek a great big THANK YOU– today and everyday for all the hard work you share with us!

Melissa Benedek is currently a junior at Bard College in Annandale-on-Hudson, New York. She is a Literature major with interest in American regional writing. One of her on-campus jobs focuses on organizing volunteer opportunities with local partnerships for students. She is also a founding editor of Sonnet Literary Magazine based out of her college campus. 

When not focused on academics, Melissa enjoys traveling into New York City to support independent bookstores and buy the best cookies at Levain Bakery.

As we look ahead to a brighter future for our world and our companies, we know that this new generation of students and graduates will help get us there. If you or someone you know is interested in writing for Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, we are regularly accepting interns. Our interns research and share 1-3 articles a week to be published across our adoption network. Internships with Adoption Choices offer future business leaders the experience they need and provide hands-on editorial experience.

Once again, thank you Melissa!!

Adoption in Missouri

How to Choose Adoption in Missouri

Unplanned Pregnancy? Need help? Considering Adoption in Missouri? We’re here to help.

If you are facing an unplanned, unexpected, or unwanted pregnancy and need help in Kansas or Missouri, you have choices! Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can offer financial support, access to medical care, safe housing, and professional counseling. We offer support across Kansas and Missouri and beyond! Choose the location nearest you:

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Putting a baby up for adoption

An unplanned pregnancy can be a terrifying thing for many women. A young woman, an older woman, no matter what stage of life you’re in, this is a huge physical and emotional situation. If you think that adoption may be the best choice for you and your child, you may be wondering what your options are regarding the adoption.

As the birth mother, you get to make most of the major decisions about how the adoption will go, and you can lay those decisions out on paper in an adoption plan that Adoption Choices of Missouri can help you create. Here are a few of the options you’ll be able to consider if you decide to place your child for adoption.

Choosing the Adoptive Family

What many people don’t realize is that adoption is never a double-blind process; in fact, in most cases the birth mother has all the control in choosing her child’s adoptive family. You will be able to tell your adoption specialist what is most important to you when it comes to who will raise your child. For example, if you desire someone with deep local roots, a similar ethnic background to yourself, or a family that shares your lifestyle or religious beliefs, these are all things you can look for in an adoptive family.

Once you have found a family you like based on their profile, you’ll have the chance to meet with them, often by speaking on the phone first and then meeting them in person. The choice of whether to move forward with them as your child’s adoptive family is all yours.

The Type of Adoption

There are three main types of adoption that you will have to choose from. While you can have the adoption type as a condition to going through with the adoption with a specific family, it is important that both you and the adoptive family agree to the terms on the type of adoption. You can choose an open adoption, semi-open, or closed adoption.

Additional Adoption Options

While those are some of the big decisions you’ll be facing, there are other options you’ll have to consider as well – such as how you’d like to communicate with the adoptive family during the pregnancy and how you’d like to handle your birth plan. Thankfully, Adoption Choices of Missouri can help explain your options to you without any pressure so that you can figure out what works best for you. Having your options lined out in an adoption plan can help you feel more confident and secure in the choices you’ve made.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us now at 1-877-903-4488 or Text Us (816) 527-9800 or email us. 

 

Adoption in Kansas

How to Choose Adoption in Kansas

Whether you are looking to adopt, looking to place your child for adoption, or searching for information about home studies and where to begin the process, the following information will be your guide to all things adoption in Kansas.

What you need to know about adopting a baby in Kansas

To get started on your adoption journey, it is important to understand some of the fundamental aspects and frequently asked questions about the process. Here are a few things to know when considering adoption in Kansas.

What are the laws and requirements for adopting a baby in Kansas?

Any adult, 18 years or older, married or unmarried may attempt to adopt a child in Kansas. If the Prospective Adoptive Parent is married, he or she cannot petition to adopt without the consent of their spouse.

How much does it cost to adopt a baby in Kansas?

Expenses related to adoption in Kansas range widely depending on the type of adoption you decide to pursue. Are you looking to adopt internationally or domestically? Through a private agency or the foster care system? Depending on what you decide, Adoptive Parents may be asked to cover adoption-related expenses such as:

  • Medical expenses for the Birth Mother and child
  • Reasonable living expenses the Birth Mother incurred during the pregnancy
  • Agency and attorney fees

What you need to know about placing your baby for adoption in Kansas

If you are considering placing your child for adoption, understanding how the adoption process works as well as knowing your rights may relieve some of your worry. Here are a few things to know when considering adoption for your child in Kansas.

Kansas is home to many families seeking adoption opportunities and resources to begin their journey. .

Who must consent to an adoption in Kansas?

Consent to adoption in Kansas must be given by the following:

  • The child’s living parents
  • The child’s legal guardian, if both parents are dead or their parental rights have been terminated
  • The child adoptee if they are at least 14 years old

When is consent not necessary for adoption in Kansas?

Consent to adoption in Kansas is not required by a child’s Birth Parent whose parental rights have been terminated or by a Birth Father who:

  • Knowingly abandoned or neglected the child
  • Is unfit as a parent or incapable of giving consent
  • Has made no reasonable effort to communicate with or support the child
  • Failed to support the Birth Mother during her pregnancy for at least 6 months prior to the child’s birth
  • Abandoned the child’s Birth Mother after receiving knowledge of the pregnancy
  • Is the child’s father as a result of rape of the Birth Mother
  • Has failed to assume parental duties for 2 consecutive years before the adoption petition

How and when can Birth Parents consent to adoption in Kansas?

Consent in Kansas must be given in writing and acknowledged before a judge or authorized officer.

Consent from a Birth Mother may not be given until 12 hours after the child’s birth, otherwise it is voidable. Consent from all other parties should not be given more than 6 months prior to the adoption petition.

If the parent is a minor, they will first receive advice from an independent legal counsel as to the consequences of the consent prior to its execution. The attorney providing independent legal advice to the minor parent must be present when the consent is given.

Can a Birth Parent revoke their consent to adoption in Kansas?

Consent to adoption is final and irrevocable once executed, unless prior to the final decree of adoption, there is evidence that the consent was not freely or voluntarily given.

What rights do Birth Fathers have in the adoption process in Kansas?

A “parent and child relationship” means the legal relationship existing between a child and the child’s biological or adoptive parents on which the law grants rights, privileges, duties, and obligations. It includes the mother and child relationship and the father and child relationship.

A “Presumed Father” is a man who, until proven otherwise, is considered the child’s legal father by law.

In Kansas, a man is considered a Presumed Father, therefore granting him parental rights, if:

  • He and the child’s Birth Mother are, or have been, married to each other, and the child is born during that marriage or within 300 days after the marriage is terminated
  • Before the child’s birth, he and the Birth Mother have attempted to marry each other by a marriage solemnized in compliance with law, but the attempted marriage is void or voidable, and:
    • If the attempted marriage is voidable, the child is born during the attempted marriage or within 300 days after its termination
    • If the attempted marriage is void, the child is born within 300 days after the termination of cohabitation
  • After the child’s birth, he and the Birth Mother have married, or attempted to marry, each other, but the attempted marriage is void or voidable, and:
    • He has acknowledged paternity of the child in writing
    • With his consent, he is named as the child’s father on the child’s birth certificate
    • He is obligated to support the child under a written voluntary promise or by a court order
  • The man, in writing, recognizes paternity of the child, including a voluntary acknowledgement
  • Genetic tests show at least a 97 percent probability that he is the Birth Father
  • The man has a duty to support the child under court order or support, even if he was never married to the Birth Mother

Home study and Post Placement Requirements in Kansas

Prospective Adoptive Parents in Kansas are required to complete a home study before beginning the adoption process and a postplacement assessment after the adoption takes place. Both will assess your ability to provide a safe and stable environment for the child you wish to adopt.

What is a home study and what happens during the process?

The home study is a critical component to the adoption process. While it is to ensure your home will provide a child with stability, safety, and support, it is also a resource for Prospective Adoptive Parents to asks questions and prepare for the adoption. A home study is ultimately a recommendation as to the fitness of the applicants to become Adoptive Parents.

In Kansas, a home study will include a criminal background check, interview, and child abuse and neglect registry check. In addition, the professional conducting the home study will make a written assessment evaluating the following:

  • Motivation for adoption
  • The entire family’s attitude toward the adoption
  • Emotional and physical health of the Adoptive Parents
  • Ability to cope with problems, stress, frustrations, crisis, and loss
  • Medical records and information regarding health conditions that could affect the ability to parent a child
  • Record of convictions other than minor traffic violations
  • Ability to provide for the child’s physical and emotional needs
  • Capacity to give and receive affection
  • Types of children desired and kinds of disabilities accepted
  • References
  • Types of children who would not be appropriate for placement with the family
  • Recommendations for number, age, sex, characteristics, and special needs children best served by the family

What is a home study and what happens during the process?

Everyone in the Prospective Adoptive Family will be included in a home study and it can be conducted by any of the following court-approved, licensed professionals:

  • Social worker
  • Marriage and family therapist
  • Counselor
  • Child-placing agency
  • Psychologist or psychotherapist

Why would my home study not be approved in Kansas?

An adoption home study in Kansas will not be approved if a Prospective Parent is found to have a felony conviction for the following acts:

  • Crimes against a person, including:
    • Murder
    • Manslaughter
    • Assault
    • Battery
    • Kidnapping
  • Sex offenses, including:
    • Rape
    • Sexual battery
    • Sexual exploitation of a child
  • Crimes affecting family relationships or children, including:
    • Incest
    • Abuse
    • Abandonment
    • Endangerment of a child
  • Unlawful disclosure of tax information
  • Unlawful interference with a firefighter or emergency medical services attendant
  • Permitting a dangerous animal to be at large
  • Selling, promoting, or buying of sexual relations
  • Commercial sexual exploitation of a child
  • Within the past 5 years, bee convicted of a felony for:
    • Crimes involving controlled substances

Is a home study different for stepparent or relative adoptions in Kansas?

If approved in court, the home study for stepparent or relative adoptions may be waived in Kansas.

What are the home study requirements for adopting a baby from another state?

Any out-of-home placement of a child outside the State is subject to the provisions of the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children.

What is a post placement requirement and what happens during the process?

Before the adoption has been finalized, a post placement assessment will take place to ensure the transition into adoption is going well and that the Adoptive Family’s circumstances have not changed to no longer fit the child’s best interest.

In Kansas, a licensed social worker or agency representative will schedule in-home visits as they feel needed. These visits will enable them to make a clear recommendation as to whether or not the adoption should be finalized.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us now at 1-877-903-4488 or Text Us (816) 527-9800 or email us. 

Adoption is an Option

Adoption is an Option at Any Stage

Whether you are eight weeks pregnant, eight months pregnant, just gave birth, or have been parenting your child for months, adoption is always an option. Many women don’t realize that it is never too late to place your child for adoption.

In fact, choosing adoption after birth is actually more common than you might realize.

Can I Place My Child for Adoption at Any Age?

Yes.
Sometimes, the reality of becoming a mother doesn’t hit you until you’ve given birth or even parented your child for some time. Or, maybe your financial or living situation has changed and you are no longer able to care for your child.
No matter the circumstances, choosing adoption may be the best option for both you and your child.
There are no age requirements for giving your child up for adoption, as some pregnant women and new mothers have worried. If you feel that adoption is right for you and your child, then it doesn’t matter how old you are or how old your baby is. It is very important to contact a professional to help right away.

Is It Too Late to Give My Baby Up For Adoption?

Generally, no.
However, the age of your child may affect what type of adoption you’re able to pursue, if you do decide that adoption is the best course of action. Many women ask, “What is the maximum age to give a child up for adoption in Kansas and/or Missouri?” “When is it too late to give a baby for adoption in Kansas and/or Missouri?” or, “How late can you give your child up for adoption?” The answers to these questions will vary depending on your individual set of circumstances.
Call Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri now at 1-877-903-4488 to discuss your situation and what options are available to you if you’re worrying about things like when can you give a child up for adoption in KS and MO.

Can I Give My Baby Up for Adoption at the Hospital?

Yes.
Putting a baby up for adoption after birth is more common than you might think. Often, women have asked, “Can I give my baby up for adoption at the hospital?” The answer is yes.
If you’re sure that adoption is right for you and your baby, then we can work with you to create an adoption plan that you’re comfortable with, even if you’re putting baby up for adoption after birth and you’re still in the hospital. You’ll still have full control over all the decisions made in your adoption.

How Does the Last-Minute Adoption Process Work?

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can walk you through all of the steps of placing your baby for adoption at the hospital, or even weeks or months after he or she is born. Your last-minute adoption process will vary based on your individual preferences and circumstances but, in general, you will complete the following steps:

Choosing a Family

No matter where you are in this process, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri will provide you with profiles of waiting adoptive families who fit what you’re looking for in a family for your child. You can then review their information and choose the family you feel is the best fit for your child.
This can happen even with a last-minute adoption. The right to choose your child’s parents is an important one, and it belongs to you even if you’re placing your child for adoption after they’ve been born.

Contacting the Family

Your Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri specialist will be able to quickly contact the family you choose and present them with the adoption opportunity. If the family agrees, you will be given the opportunity to talk with them either via phone or in person when they arrive to meet you and the child.
While there may be less time for you to get to know the adoptive family before placement occurs, there will be plenty of time to connect with them in the future. Adoption is the start of a lifelong journey, and the relationship between you and your child’s adoptive parents should continue to strengthen as your child grows.

Moving Forward

Your legal parental rights will need to be terminated before your child’s adoptive parents can be granted parental rights. Your legal representative will walk you through the legal steps that are required to transfer custody to the adoptive family.
After the adoption is completed, you will need time to grieve and heal. Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri will provide post-placement support.

If you are considering adoption for your child, please do not hesitate to contact Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri at 1-877-903-4488 for or text us at 1-316-209-2071. Remember, adoption is always an option!!

Need help with choosing adoption?

Please know that at any time you may speak directly with an adoption counselor 24/7, confidentially, and with no obligation by calling or texting 316-209-2071 or via our contact form at Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri.

Whether you are feeling ashamed, confused, scared or excited, confident, and ready – we can help you choose adoption. We walk you through the process from start through your pregnancy, and even after you place your baby for adoption with an adoptive family. We have the expertise and the commitment to help.

Adoption Choices is a licensed child placing agency in Kansas and Missouri that serves women facing an unplanned pregnancy and don’t want to parent. We have worked with women in need for many years throughout Kansas, Missouri, and the U.S. On average, we assist to more than 100 women annually who have experienced an unplanned pregnancy!

Our birth mothers come from all walks of life and we are committed to sharing an open, honest, diverse environment. We welcome same sex couple to adopt your child, transracial families, traditional families, and other nontraditional couples. All our families go through a very thorough Home Study.

Adoption Choices and You Podcast

Adoption Choices and Youis a new podcast created for birth mothers and adoptive families who are considering adoption. Each week, the team shares valuable adoption information, tips and advice, adoption stories and more.

If you are a birth mother and considering adoption, please contact Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouriare here to help! In the meantime, have a listen to the podcast!!

For Kansas adoption information visit us at Adoption Choices of Kansas. Call us at 877-903-4488. Text us at 316-209-2071.

For Missouri adoption information visit us at Adoption Choices of Missouri. Call us at 877-903-4488. Text us at 816-527-9800.

 

Choosing an Adoptive Family for Your Baby

Choosing an Adoptive Family for Your Baby

A fulfilling part of the adoption process is choosing the adoptive family for your baby. Adoption Choices of Missouri only works with families who are licensed to adopt a baby in the United States. Our adopting families have all been pre-screened and are ready to provide a safe, stable, and loving home. No matter what you are looking for, we believe there is a family out there that is a perfect fit for you and your baby.

To decide which adoptive family is the best fit, consider these questions:

  • Are you open to a single parent, or do you prefer a two-parent household?
  • Are you open to a gay, lesbian, and/or transgender couple?
  • Do you prefer a family in a specific location?
  • What kind of family values and views on parenting are you looking for in a family?
  • Is the family’s religion or spiritual beliefs important to you?
  • Do you prefer a family that already has children or plans to have/adopt more?
  • Is it important to you that the family have a large extended family they are close with?
  • What hobbies and interests do you want the family to have?
  • Does it matter to you whether one or both parents work outside the home?

We can help with these decisions and help you find your adoptive family! Contact Adoption Choices of Missouri  for more information Serving Expectant Parents Statewide (in Missouri and Kansas) Expectant Parent Hotline (24/7): 1-877-903-4488

What Expectant Parents Need to Know about the Adoption Process

What Expectant Parents Need to Know about the Adoption Process

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, the ins and outs of the adoption process can be overwhelming. As an expectant mother, you are likely filled with many questions as you begin to navigate your potential journey toward adoption. While the adoption process can be overwhelming, there are numerous adoption resources available for you. The circumstances surrounding adoption vary widely, so it is important to really consider whether adoption is the right choice for you and your family. Despite whether or not your pregnancy was planned, you are here researching adoption, and making an informed decision is to be commended.

Within the adoption process, the hard things can become easier with the right understanding and mindset. As an expectant mother, you hold the key to the adoption process. The adoption triad, as it is often called, refers to you the expectant parent, the adoptive parent(s), and the child. Within that triad is a great deal of emotional complexities. However, if you travel through your adoption journey with the lens of what is best for your child, you will remain successful in your decision-making process concerning your child. Adoption Choices of Missouri seek to organize the adoption process into a meaningful overview, which will hopefully help you. While not every detail of the adoption process will be discussed here, the overall points of the adoption process will be.

What Is Adoption?

Adoption is a “legal process in which parental rights to a child (whose biological parents’ parental rights have been severed) are bestowed on adopting parents, creating a parent–child relationship where one did not previously exist. The adopted child has all the same legal rights and responsibilities as a biological child, including rights of inheritance.”

While the term “relinquish” may seem harsh, it is important to understand that as an expectant parent, you are the centerpiece of the adoption triad, and nothing happens without your continual consent and initiation. In order to be able to decide if adoption is the right decision for you and the circumstances surrounding your pregnancy, you first have to truly understand what adoption means. To further your knowledge of adoption, let us also explain that it is a matching process. As the expectant parent, you will be given a say in which prospective adoptive parents you would like your child to be placed with. So, while the legal jargon will exist, you will have your personal touch on the parent-matching process.

What Do You Want in Adoptive Parents?

You will need to decide what type of family you want for your child. This will include everything from their occupations, their family structure, what they do in their spare time, and everything in between. Think of this as the “best-case scenario” for your child. Do you want your child to be in a culturally diverse family or part of a certain religion? Remember that there will be a matching of sorts taking place with the prospective adoptive parents, so you will need to be sure of what you are looking for in a family.

In adoption, the process of selecting an adoptive family for your child is often called the “matching process.” This process typically involves you reviewing several profile books of adoptive families that meet your predetermined criteria. For example, if you have expressed that you want a culturally diverse family, Adoption Choices of Missouri will only show you the profile books of the families that met that specific criterion. Meeting adoptive parents in person can be an option based on your request. While the matching process can be intimidating, and perhaps uncomfortable, the purpose is to serve as a time for you to get some insight into prospective adoptive parents. No family will be absolutely perfect, so you will need to keep “what is best for my child” at the forefront of your mind.

What Type of Adoption Do I Want?

As you learn more about the adoption process, you will find that there are different types of adoptions available to you. These include open, closed, and semi-open adoptions. Kinship adoptions also exist, but these are adoptions that occur within biological families. For example, an aunt and uncle legally adopt their biological niece. Open adoption means that the relationship between the biological family and adoptive family is open, which would likely mean in-person visits.

The types of adoptions can vary and change over time, but, in general, an open adoption involves both parties being as open as possible. Some examples of open adoption may include the biological family attending the birthday party of the child or maintaining social media contact including video chats and similar media outlets. A closed adoption means that there is no ongoing contact between either party. Lastly, a semi-open adoption means that there is contact between both parties periodically. This contact does not likely include in-person visits but instead may include letters and pictures throughout each year. You will be able to decide what level of openness, if any at all, you’d like in the adoption plan you create for your child.

Adoption Is Right for Me, Now What?

Now that you have decided that placing your child for adoption is right for you and your family, you will begin to work closely with Adoption Choices of Missouri . We will begin to guide you through each step. Some of these steps will include paperwork and other legal discussions that can potentially be overwhelming, but it is our goal to keep your well-being as our top priority. During this time, you will ideally be provided with services like preplacement counseling to begin to help you understand and process what placing a child for adoption will look and feel like.

During your adoption journey, it is critically important that you get all of the counseling that you need. Such services can continue and should continue after placement. Your adoption professional will partner closely with you through the initial stages and into the matching stage with an adoptive family, placement, and finalization. Each of these stages of the adoption process brings its own challenges. As the expectant parent, you need to continue to communicate openly and honestly.

Adoption: From Start to Finish

Hopefully, at this point, you have a general overview of the adoption process. While this article does not discuss the process in complete detail, it does provide a general understanding. As an expectant mother, you will quickly discover that within the your journey you will have to muster up every ounce of strength, courage, and selflessness that you can. No part of the process is easy. The emotional challenges are monumental. And unfortunately, the decisions that must be made in all of their difficulties hardly wait for your emotions to catch up.

The adoption process should not be portrayed as an easy thing because it is far from easy. This is not meant to scare you as an expectant parent, but it is meant to keep you knowledgeable of the process ahead. With all that being said, however, there are resources across our country that make the adoption process manageable and a blessing for all involved. As with anything else, there can be less than desirable aspects to adoption, especially when you partner with agencies or other entities that function in unethical ways or those entities that approach adoption as a business. Adoption is a sacred and tender process, and it should be treated as such, especially when it comes to you: the expectant woman.

As a reminder, as you begin the adoption process, remember what is most important to you in terms of your child. Search your heart in light of your circumstances. Then, seek trusted counsel as you strive to make the most informed decision as possible regarding your pregnancy. Make an intentional effort to remember that if you do choose adoption and you walk through the adoption process from beginning to end, that you will need post-placement care. It will be easy to have the mindset of, “It’s done, so now I can move on.” However, that outlook can potentially lead to emotional trauma for you down the road. To avoid that and to maintain an emotionally healthy life after placement, you will need to be disciplined in your post-placement care. You may find yourself having to advocate for yourself as you obtain counseling.

Regardless of whether or not you actually complete the adoption process, your wisdom in evaluating all of your options as an expectant parent is to be complimented. Your desire to do what is best for you and your family speaks volumes to the love you are already showing for your child. Parenting comes in many different forms, and adoption is just one of those forms. If adoption ends up being part of your story, please know there are strong and thriving adoption communities that will not only love you through it, but will also support you as an expectant parent.

Contact Adoption Choices of Missouri  for more information
Serving Expectant Parents Statewide (in Missouri and Kansas) Expectant Parent Hotline (24/7): 1-877-903-4488

Our Services for your Adoption Plan

OUR SERVICES FOR YOUR ADOPTION PLAN

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Financial Support for Adoption

An unplanned pregnancy can be a strain on you both physically and financially. If you are considering adoption, as an expectant mother, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can assist you with financial support and proper nutrition, including Food Stamps, WIC, and ongoing grocery expenses.

We are a local child adoption agency that provides one on one support to each of our birth mothers. We have offices in Wichita and Kansas City and case workers located throughout the state ready to help you. We provide the highest level of birth mother support. Read more about out financial support.

Safe Housing for Adoption

Not having adequate housing or a safe place to sleep can lead to unnecessary stress and discomfort during your unplanned pregnancy.

Providing birth mother support, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can help you find and afford proper housing so you can rest easy.

Medical Care for Adoption

As an expectant mother, access to prenatal care should be one of your biggest concerns, especially with an unplanned pregnancy, and we are here to help.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri can help you apply for Medicaid and receive appropriate medical care throughout your pregnancy.

Support Counseling for Adoption

Putting your child up for adoption will not be an easy choice. We are here for you.

We are a local child adoption agency that cares. A compassionate birth parent counselor from Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri will be by your side to provide you with comfort and emotional support. Meet our team!

Our involvement doesn’t end there, we are with you through the birth and post-placement for all of your emotional needs.

Birth Mother Application for Adoption

If you are considering adoption and ready to work with a local birth parent counselor at Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, contact us at 1-877-903-4488  for birth mother support.

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If you are pregnant and looking to explore adoption options confidentially, please enter your name, number, or email. Let us know if you prefer us to call, text, or email you. It is 100% free, and we are available 24/7.

If you are pregnant and looking to explore adoption options confidentially, please enter your name, number, or email. Let us know if you prefer us to call, text, or email you. It is 100% free, and we are available 24/7.