We have compiled top tips from adoptees for adoptive families in navigating adoption: 1. TREAT ALL CHILDREN IN THE HOUSEHOLD EQUALLY Younger child may feel an older child gets more freedom (explain rationale behind decisions) Different treatment for different personalities (equally, not the same) Gender differences The eldest feeling pressured to always having to set the example Adopted parents birth children treated better than adopted children 2. ALWAYS LISTEN TO US AND OUR VIEWS We may not always be sure when and if we can speak about adoption Give us more opportunities to voice our opinions/concerns/worries Try to see it from the child’s perspective 3. PREPARE US AND FIND WAYS TO TELL US THAT WE ARE ADOPTED Make sure that the child and parent are on the same page Tell…
5 Tips for Birth Parents in an Open Adoption Relationship
Like any relationship in your life, open adoption is built on trust and respect. You trust that the people you chose to raise your child will love and nurture him or her, and your child's parents will trust in you to love your child and be there when he or she may need you to be. Here are five tips to keep your open adoption relationship healthy for everybody involved: Acknowledge everyone's boundaries. Call the child by the name that the adoptive parents have given him or her, not the one you may have wanted, and call yourself by your first name, or the "title" you discussed with the adoptive parents. This way, it'll be clear for your child who plays what role in their life. If need be, be open and honest with the adoptive family…
Happy New Year 2019
Happy New Year from Adoption Choices of Kansas & Missouri! To our waiting families, it is our HOPEthat your baby will find his/her way home to you in 2019. "Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow." To our expectant mothers and families, it is our goal to have you have PEACEof mind in whatever you think is best for you and your child. “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”