A common misconception with adoption is that you must be married to adopt. However, a single person can adopt if they would like to add a child to their life. Adoption gives you the option to raise a child, love him/her, and give them a caring and supportive home that they simply did not have before. Single-parent adoption is absolutely a possibility and Adoption Choices of Missouri understands that every family, and every adoption plan, is unique! Our staff will help you make an adoption plan that meets your needs with care and compassion.
Things to Consider
As a single person, it’s important to keep in mind that there are some factors you should consider before making that final move towards adoption. We recommend examining these factors yourself first, then contacting an adoption counselor with Adoption Choices of Missouri to discuss your situation and determine what’s best for you.
Home Study – the home study is a legal requirement by Missouri state law and is how we and the state decides whether your home is fit for raising a child. If you are single, your living habits will change slightly from that of a married couple. Make sure your home is a healthy, organized, and safe environment for a child to live in. You will need to have at least 2 bedrooms: one for you and one for your child.
Financials – one of the most difficult factors to prove is your financial stability. Unless you have access to a large amount of cash, it can be a problem to show that you can afford a child. When you sit down with our adoption agency, it’s a good idea to show your future plans and how you plan to achieve them with numbers showing how much money you can afford to spend outside of the average bill. Find out all of the adoption fees beforehand and set aside some money for any fees or unexpected bills.
Life Changes – another important factor you should consider is the social impact that having a child can have on you. Many single prospective parents do not think about how a child would affect relationships with their family and friends, so it’s a good idea to let your closest friends and family know that you’re considering adoption. More importantly, this should also provide you with a support base to help you through the adoption process and when raising your child. We highly recommend that you have a strong support base.
Adopting and raising a child requires a lot of support from family and friends. Some small issues such as being late to picking your child up from school can cause a stressful living situation and should be avoided as much as possible. A strong support base can resolve many of these situations. We recommend that single parents build close relationships with family members and close friends and ask them if they’d be willing to take on some extra responsibilities in the case that you can’t do something. Some good questions to ask before going through with an adoption could include:
Who would help when you’re sick in bed and need to tend to your child?
In the case of an emergency, who would be with you physically in a moment’s notice?
Who would pick your child up if you couldn’t make it?
Is your family member/friend kid-friendly?
If you are considering interracial adoption, does your support system discriminate based on age or ethnicity?
Adoption is beautiful and is a great way to connect great parents with great children. In the end, though, it’s up to the birth parents to choose where their baby goes. Some birth parents prefer married couples, while others prefer single parents.
Here are some key points to take away:
Are you financially stable enough to support a child and yourself?
Is your support system stable and will they help when you need them to (including the middle of the night)?
Would you pass the home study?
Some birth parents prefer single parents, but some prefer married couples.
28.2% of adoptions are done by single men and women.
If you are an expectant mother and considering adoption for your baby or you are an adoptive family, hoping to add a baby to your family, we know all the information and resources can be overwhelming. We try to compile this information, resources, news, and include experience and expertise to help you understand every aspect of your adoption journey. In this article we define some of the most popular terms you will come across while researching adoption.
Adoptee. A person who was adopted. Some people prefer the terms “adopted child” or “adopted person.”
Adoption. The complete transfer of parental rights and obligations from one parent or set of parents to another. A legal adoption requires a court action.
Adoption Agency. An organization, like Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, usually licensed by the state, that provides services to birth parents, adoptive parents, and children who need families. Agencies may be public or private, secular or religious, for profit or nonprofit.
Adoption Assistance. Monthly federal or state subsidy payments to help adoptive parents raise children with special needs. Adoption assistance can also refer to the financial assistance that birth mothers may receive during their pregnancy with an adoption plan in place.
Adoption Attorney. A lawyer who files, processes, and finalizes adoptions in court. In some states attorneys may also arrange adoptive placements.
Adoption Consultant. An individual who helps would-be adoptive parents decide on an adoption path, and assists in choosing an appropriate agency or attorney.
Adoption Facilitator. An individual whose business involves connecting birth parents and prospective adoptive parents for a fee (allowed in only a few states).
Adoption Plan. Birth parents’ decision to allow their child to be placed for adoption.
Adoption Tax Credit. Nonrefundable credit that reduces taxes owed by adoptive parents who claim adoption expense reimbursement on federal taxes (and, in some states with similar legislation, on state taxes). The credit calculation can include adoption expenses, court fees, attorney fees, and travel expenses.
Adoption Triad. The three major parties in an adoption: birth parents, adoptive parents, and adopted child. Also called “adoption triangle” or “adoption circle.”
Agency Adoption. Adoptive placements made by licensed organizations, like Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri, that screen prospective adoptive parents and supervise the placement of children in adoptive homes until the adoption is finalized.
Birth Parent. A child’s biological parent who has signed a consent to adoption. Birth parents include a birth mother and birth father, and, birth grandparents.
Closed Adoption. An adoption that involves total confidentiality and sealed records.
Confidentiality. The legally required process of keeping identifying or other significant information secret. Also, the principle of ethical practice that requires social workers and other professionals not to disclose information about a client without the client’s consent.
Consent to Adopt or Consent to Adoption. A birth parent’s legal permission for the adoption to proceed.
Decree of Adoption. A legal order that finalizes an adoption.
Disruption. An adoption process that is halted after the prospective adoptive parents have taken custody but before legally finalization.
Dissolution. An adoption in which the parent-child legal relationship is severed after finalization.
Domestic Adoption. An adoption that involves adoptive parents and a child that are permanent residents of the United States. (the alternative would be an International Adoption)
Emergency Placement. An adoption match that is made after the child has already been born. Also referred to as a “baby-born situation,” “hospital match,” “stork-drop”, or “drop-in”.
Employer Benefits. Compensation to workers through employer-sponsored programs, e.g., financial assistance, reimbursement of adoption expenses, and/or provision of parental or family leave.
Expectant Mother. A woman who is pregnant and considering adoption for her child after she gives birth.
Finalization. The final legal step in the adoption process; involves a court hearing, during which a judge orders that the adoptive parents become the child’s legal parents.
Home Study. A process through which prospective adoptive parents are educated about adoption and evaluated to determine their suitability to adopt.
ICPC. The Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children (ICPC) is statutory law that establishes uniform legal and administrative procedures governing the adoption of children between states within the U.S.
Identifying Information. Information on birth parents or adoptive parents that discloses their identities.
Independent Adoption. An adoption facilitated by other than an adoption agency.
Kinship Adoption. Adoption by a biological relative of the child.
Legal Guardian. A person who has legal responsibility for the care and management of a person (such as a minor child) who is incapable of administering his or her own affairs.
Legal Risk Placement. Placement of a child in a prospective adoptive family when the child is not yet legally free for adoption.
Match or Matching. The process of bringing together qualified prospective adoptive parents and willing biological parents, who by choice choose to explore the compatibility of each other and who can agree on the terms under which the adoptive parents can adopt the child.
Open Adoption. An adoption that involves some amount of initial and/or ongoing contact between birth and adoptive families, ranging from sending letters through the agency to exchanging names and/or scheduling visits.
Placement. The point at which a child begins to live with prospective adoptive parents; the period before the adoption is finalized.
Post-Placement Supervision. The range of counseling and agency services provided to the adoptive family after the child’s placement and before the adoption is finalized in court.
Public Agencies. Social service agencies run by state or county governments that deal mainly with children in foster care.
Relative Adoption. See Kinship Adoption.
Relinquishment. Voluntary termination of parental rights. Some prefer the phrase “making an adoption plan.”
Reunion. A meeting between an adopted person and birth parents or other birth relatives.
Revocation. The legally specified period in which a mother who has consented to adoption may revoke that consent and regain custody of her child. The revocation period varies from stte to state—in some, parental rights are terminated upon relinquishment and there is no revocation period, in others, the revocation period is 30 days.
Same Sex Adoption. Adoption of children by lesbian, gay, bisexual ,transgender (LGBT+) people. This may be in the form of a joint adoption by a same-sex couple, adoption by one partner of a same-sex couple of the other’s biological child (step-child adoption), or adoption by a single LGBT+ person. Also known as “LGBT Adoption” and “LGBTQ Adoption”.
Search. An attempt to locate and/or make a connection with a birth parent or a biological child.
Semi-Open Adoption. An adoption in which a child’s birth parents and adoptive parents may meet once or twice, but exchange only nonidentifying information.
Single Adoption. An adoption in which the adoptive family is a single individual, male or female.
Special-Needs Children. Children whom agencies consider difficult to place because of emotional or physical disorders, age, race, membership in a sibling group, history of abuse, or other factors.
Transracial Adoption. An adoption in which the child and the adoptive parent(s) are not of the same race.
Waiting Children. Children in the public child welfare system who cannot return to their birth homes and need permanent, loving families to help them grow up safe and secure.
Waiting Families. Families who have public profiles available and are waiting to be chosen by an expectant mother/birth parents.
Positive Language in Adoption
Birth Mother, First Mother
Born to unmarried parents
Terminate parental rights
Make an adoption plan
Adoption triad or circle
Child placed for adoption
Child with special needs
Unplanned pregnancy, crisis pregnancy
Negative, Outdated, or Inaccurate Language in Adoption
Give up (for adoption)
Placed up (for adoption)
An unwanted child
Your reason for considering adoption is individual. You might be struggling to make ends meet or trying to further your education. Perhaps the father is not around or refuses to take responsibility. Maybe you are already parenting a child and you know you cannot take on the further responsibility of raising another child. No matter your situation, placing your baby up for adoption at birth can be a positive and loving experience for all concerned.
At no-cost to expectant mothers, Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri offers a variety of birth mother support! We are a LOCAL agency providing compassionate, personalized adoption services. We get to know you so we can provide the best quality services for your needs and the needs of your baby. You will work one-on-one with a Birth Parent Counselor who you can rely on through every step of your adoption journey.
If you’re unexpectedly pregnant, having to worry about money can put you under additional stress.
Adoption Choices of Missouri and Kansas works to help expectant mothers receive as much financial assistance for placing your baby for adoption as possible while you’re going through the adoption process. We want you to have one less thing on your troubled mind.
If your circumstances allow, we can help you find financial assistance for everyday costs like:
Housing and Rent
Additionally, all of our legal services are offered completely free of charge to you along with some adoption services like:
Helping you sign up for free medical care throughout your pregnancy and delivery
Access to free counseling and support services before, during and after the adoption; whenever you need them
Help finding the perfect adoptive parents for your baby
General case management and adoption planning services
While you’re sorting through the process of finding adoptive parents for your child, we can help handle whatever adoption- and pregnancy-associated costs that are allowed by law so that you can focus on doing what’s best for you and your baby.
How to Get Paid for Adoption Costs
Pregnancy and childbirth are expensive even if you’re medically insured, and maintaining a consistent work schedule can be difficult as your pregnancy progresses. When you choose to place your baby for adoption with Adoption Choices of Missouri and Kansas you may be eligible to receive some form of “payment” for birth mothers in the form of living expenses. These can help offset the costs of your pregnancy and adoption.
The amount of adoption financial assistance that you can receive will depend on a number of factors, including:
The birth parent living expense laws and limits set by the state law that applies to your adoption plan
Your current income
Your current living situation
If you have any dependents that you’re financially responsible for
We’re here to help you navigate these laws so that you’re able to receive the maximum amount of adoption compensation for birth mother expenses that is available in your situation.
Birth Parent Living Expense Laws in Missouri: “Do You Get Money for Putting a Baby Up for Adoption in MO?”
The answer is a little more complicated than just a simple yes or no. No one should ever give you money to influence your adoption decision. However, as a woman considering adoption, Missouri does allow adoptive families to pay for certain pregnancy-related expenses. So, while you don’t get paid for adoption, you may receive financial assistance to help you keep up with bills and additional costs related to pregnancy. Pregnancy-related expenses may include but are not limited to: Rent, Utilities, Food, Phone service, Transportation, Maternity clothes, and Medical expenses.
Missouri prevents adoptive parents from paying any expenses deemed unreasonable by the courts, and it’s illegal to ever exchange money for the termination of parental rights.
Birth Parent Living Expense Laws in Kansas: “Do You Get Paid for Putting a Baby Up for Adoption in KS?”
Similar to Missouri, in Kansas, essential services such as free medical care, counseling, and legal representation are always provided for women considering adoption. Additionally, you may qualify for KS adoption compensation for birth mother living expenses as well as the costs of pregnancy and birth, in addition to post-adoption birth parent benefits. Pregnancy-related expenses may include but are not limited to: Rent, Utilities, Food, Phone service, Transportation, Maternity clothes, and Medical expenses.
Additionally, you might ask, “Is it free to put a child up for adoption in Missouri or Kansas?” Yes. Placing your child for adoption always comes at no expense to the birth mother.
We are here for you. A caring caseworker from Adoption Choices of Missouri and Kansas will be by your side to provide you with comfort and emotional support. But our involvement doesn’t end there. We’re with you through the birth and afterward for all of your emotional needs.
Adoption Choices of Missouri Kansas will cover appropriate living expenses to birth mothers who need the help. We understand how difficult it is to get back on your feet and return to work after delivering a baby.
Contact us Toll Free: 1-877-903-4488
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, considering your options, and researching the process of placing a child for adoption, you may feel overwhelmed by the amount of information available. Fortunately, you are not alone, and with a little guidance, you can make the decision that’s best for you and your baby!
This is an outline of the steps you can follow if you decide that adoption is the right choice for you and your baby. The process will be different for every woman, and when you contact Adoption Choices of Missouri, we will help you make a more detailed plan that fits your needs and your pregnancy.
Visit your doctor
If you believe that you are pregnant, you should visit your doctor or OB/GYN specialist to confirm that you are pregnant and to learn how your pregnancy is progressing. Whether you ultimately decide to choose adoption, parent your child, or abortion, you should begin to care for yourself and your baby.
The first few months of your pregnancy are very important to your baby’s development and health. As your body undergoes changes and new stressors, it is essential that you begin to take care of yourself as soon as possible. Discontinue any alcohol or drug use immediately. Your physician will be able to give you detailed instructions on how to care for yourself and your baby during your pregnancy.
Call an adoption professional
Understanding adoption is the first step in your decision-making process. If you have already decided that you would like to place your baby for adoption, an adoption professional, like Adoption Choices of Missouri will help you make a plan and discover your needs during your pregnancy. If you have not made your decision, our professionals will explain the process to you and give you all the information you need to make a decision. You are never pressured or forced to make a choice one way or another.
Make a plan to give up baby for adoption
Your specialist will explain all of your options and help you determine how you would like your adoption process to continue. We will help you choose the level of openness you wish to have, the adoptive family, plan your labor and hospital stay, and depending on your financial and social situation, we can direct you to government programs that will assist you with healthcare costs and groceries. We will also help you obtain housing, food and supplies, maternity clothes, and other items necessary as you continue with your pregnancy. We will collect your medical history and the medical history of the father if he is known. Your adoption professional will also offer to provide counseling throughout your pregnancy and after!
Determine type of adoption
There are three different types of relationships you can have with an adoptive family: open, semi-open and closed. You are able to decide what type of contact, if any, you would like to have with the adoptive family and the child. Some women choose only to receive pictures and letters once a year, but if you want, you can have more contact and even in-person visits. The level of contact you will have with your child and the adoptive family is up to you.
Choose the family
You are not required to choose the adoptive family, but many pregnant mothers enjoy the experience of learning about and ultimately selecting the family that will parent their child. We will send you information about adoptive families so that you can learn about their interests, careers, parenting styles, and excitement to become parents through adoption.
Many women find that they form a connection with a family after seeing their profile and discovering similar interests or values. Once you have decided on a family, you can choose to have an in-person meeting or a phone interview with them. During this conversation, you will be able to get to know the family better and let them know your wishes during the rest of the process. You should feel free to address any questions, thoughts or even concerns you might have.
Welcome your baby
Before the birth of your baby, you will have already gone over your hospital and delivery plan with your adoption specialist. Once you go into labor, immediately notify your adoption specialist and they will contact the adoptive family. After delivery, you can spend as much time as you would like with your baby. Whether you had a natural birth or a C-section, you will most likely be discharged within 72 hours, and depending on the state in which you live, you will sign the birth parent relinquishment papers before you leave the hospital.
Preparing for the relinquishment
Adoption is a lifelong choice, and many women find that they need help after the relinquishment. The adoption specialist will be there for you not only during your pregnancy, but also after you have signed the relinquishment papers. They will help you work through your thoughts on the adoption and prepare you for the various types of emotions you will feel.
Many women find that contact with other mothers who also put their baby up for adoption is helpful. Your adoption specialist can put you in contact with other women who have been in your position and can even direct you toward local support groups if you are interested.
If you pursued an open adoption, you will also have the support of the adoptive family and the comfort of seeing your child. In an open adoption, relinquishment is not a “good-bye,” but the beginning of a unique and beautiful relationship between you, your child, and the family you’ve chosen.
The adoption process is different for every woman, depending on what she needs during her pregnancy and what she wants for her adoption plan. If you are considering adoption for your baby, you may call 1-877-903-4488 or send us an email from Adoption Choices of Missouri .
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