The Pros and Cons of LGBT Adoption
The LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) community has been through a lot over the past five years. It was only then when the supreme court ruled that LGBT couples could legally get married. They have constantly been hurt by others, and many members of this community may suffer doubts as a result. In terms of adoption, however, they are one of the most popular types of couples and individuals that birth mothers choose when considering adoption.
Today, Adoption Choices of Missouri wants to highlight the many pros and cons of LGBT adoption.
Pros of LGBT Adoption
Two parents of the same sex can be good for development. With LGBT couples, it is no surprise that a major benefit is having two parents of the same sex. As your baby grows older, he or she will see that it is okay to not have just one mom and one dad as adoptive parents. He or she, instead, will feel more comfortable with having two dads or two moms.
Having LGBT parents can also make your baby more informed. Although it is likely that your baby may notice criticism among the LGBT community, they will learn how to stand up for themselves and their adoptive parents. With having parents of the same sex, your baby has a clear advantage of being more accepting of others’ differences, tolerance, individuality and diversity.
Your baby can grow up to be understanding. It is not uncommon for LGBT couples to be more accepting and tolerant of others’ differences..These are huge characteristics of being understanding. Your child can learn how to forgive quicker when he or she makes a mistake, and learn how to better understand others as well.
The world is full of people who do not forgive. These people end up losing their relationships and can grow up to become miserable. With your baby learning to accept others for who they are, he or she will come to know that the world needs more forgiving people.
Cons of LGBT Adoption
Judgement will arise. Even though people are generally becoming more accepting of the LGBT community, there is still a good number of people that believe that the LGBT community is different. That they do not deserve the same rights as heterosexual couples. You may be worried that judgement will forever hurt your baby, but as we discussed previously about the pros of adoption, your baby will learn to accept differences. As he or she grows up, they will be able to stand up for themselves and refrain from typical judgements that arise within the LGBT community.
Judgements are a way for the LGBT community to only grow stronger. Even though judgements will happen, your baby will learn to recognize differences and grow up to become more alert in an ever-changing society.
People will assume your baby is also a member of the LGBT community. Obviously, this is not really a con, but something important to point out. If you are concerned that placing your child with an LGBT adoptive family will “turn them gay,” don’t be. It’s not true. Personal attraction comes later in life, and your child has the freedom and right to choose who they love no matter what. Being raised in an LGBT family will not make them gay, just as being raised in a heterosexual family doesn’t make them straight.
Is it worth considering an LGBT couple to adopt your baby?
Absolutely! There is so much to keep in mind regarding LGBT adoption, and the pros of LGBT adoption far outweigh the cons. The cons of LGBT adoption that we listed can easily be overcome, and the adoptive parents you select for your child will do their best to provide them with the most loving and successful life possible. LGBT couples are wonderful to work with simply because of how understanding and accepting they are about life.
Your baby needs to be raised by a couple who genuinely has an interest in him or her. Thankfully, LGBT couples fit this profile perfectly and would be one of the best types of family models to consider when looking at prospective adoptive parents.
Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to help you with LGBT adoption and we hope that you will reach out to us with any questions, comments or concerns.
Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071
Meet the Author: Jason Legasse is a rising senior English major studying at Siena Collegein Loudonville, New York. He hails from the Albany, New York area, but has plans to relocate to sunny Venice, Florida with his mom come Fall. After completing his bachelor’s degree, Jason plans to study General Special Education at Meredith College, where he will earn a Master’s degree and use that to teach middle school Special Education.
Jason is a self-proclaimed introvert with Asperger’s who really enjoys writing. He has a huge passion for helping others, specifically those with disabilities. He is very excited to be working with Adoption Choices over the summer, and looks forward to learning more about the adoption process!