Open Adoption Success Story
The adoption process is something that both adoptive families and birth mothers should consider and take seriously. This includes choosing what level of openness you want to have in your adoption agreement plan. There are three levels to choose from: open, semi-open and closed. Each level has their own pros and cons and requires research to determine which best fits you and your family.
Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri encourages open adoption, as we believe this agreement keeps everyone’s best interests at heart. It allows birth mothers to have more control over their adoption journey and helps you establish strong, healthy relationships with your child’s adoptive parents. Open adoptions also typically mean that your child will be able to build an equally strong and healthy connection with you. To illustrate this, we want to share Crystal’s open adoption success story.
Crystal struggled with infertility. She’d gone through treatments and surgeries. Her two children — a son or daughter — were from two different birth mothers, and had open adoption agreements with both of them.
Crystal’s daughter, Elizabeth, was originally going to be a closed adoption, but was then changed to an open and had been working well for seven years. Her son, Timothy, was adopted four years later. His birth mother and grandmother very happily agreed to an open adoption and enjoyed the frequent in-person visits and contact with him, Crystal and her husband. When his birth mother remarried, she invited the whole family, which strengthened their relationship even more.
Contact with Elizabeth’s birth mother happened more slowly, but then began to improve. At Timothy’s fourth birthday party, his birth mother invited Elizabeth’s birth family. Her birth mother showed up and made the party extra special for Elizabeth.
What was the Secret to Crystal’s Open Adoption Success Story?
For Crystal, her open adoption was successful in two ways. The first was through having open communication and, the second, staying consistent with that. All adoption journeys are different and can go at different speeds, but that’s natural. If you are a birth mother considering an open adoption agreement and aren’t comfortable with a lot of communication at first, let your child’s adoptive parents know. It’s ok to take some time to healthfully grieve and process once the adoption has been finalized. Discuss this with your adoption caseworker as well.
Open adoptions are a great choice when it comes to adoption, especially when it means that you could have the opportunity to watch your child grow into the happy, healthy and independent adult they are meant to be. Also, it can give you the peace of mind you want and the reassurance that you made the right choice for you and your child.
An Open Adoption Success Story
Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri fully supports you and your adoption decisions. Open adoptions are a wonderful choice, and, while we know that it may not be your go to, we hope that after having taken a look at Crystal’s story, you will take some time into looking more into open adoptions. Perhaps you might even end up selecting an open adoption in the end!
Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071
Meet the Author: Jason Legasse is a rising senior English major studying at Siena Collegein Loudonville, New York. He hails from the Albany, New York area, but has plans to relocate to sunny Venice, Florida with his mom come Fall. After completing his bachelor’s degree, Jason plans to study General Special Education at Meredith College, where he will earn a Master’s degree and use that to teach middle school Special Education.
Jason is a self-proclaimed introvert with Asperger’s who really enjoys writing. He has a huge passion for helping others, specifically those with disabilities. He is very excited to be working with Adoption Choices over the summer, and looks forward to learning more about the adoption process!