Are you an expectant mother seeking to place your child for adoption? Let Adoption Choices of Missouri help. There are a lot of choices to make when placing a child for adoption. The first is whether to have an open, semi-open, or closed adoption.
After you decide the type of adoption to have, you will want to choose an adoptive family. Choosing the right family is very important, as it has numerous ramifications for your child’s upbringing. You might be asking yourself what are some criteria to consider when choosing an adoptive family. There are many things to consider, although nothing fully replaces your gut instinct of a good match. Here are a few things to consider:
A good starting point when considering an adoptive family is the life your child will have as he or she grows up. Do you want your child to have siblings, or would you prefer that he or she is an only child? Do you think your child needs a mom and dad, or do you prefer a same sex couple? What about a single parent? Do you want the adoptive parents to be young, or do you prefer older parents? Do you want your child to have pets? These are just some of the things to consider when choosing an adoptive family. The answers to these questions will help you choose the right adoptive family for your child.
Another thing to consider is where your child will grow up. Do you want your child to grow up in an urban or rural community? Do you want your child to live close to you? Do you want your child to have a close extended family? Do you want your child to grow up where you grew up? Where your child grows up is important, especially in open adoptions where the adoptive parents agree to let you visit your child from time to time.
You might want to consider the race or ethnicity of your adoptive parents. Do you want adoptive parents who are the same ethnicity as your child? Are you open to a family with a different ethnicity? Many prospective adoptive parents are open to different ethnicities. In fact, mixed heritage families are becoming more common across the United States. Maybe its right for you.
Religion may also be a part of your life. It may even influence your choice of an adoptive family. For example, do you want your child to grow up in a household that shares your faith? Or do you prefer a household that does not emphasize religion. Knowing if and whether religion will be a part of your child’s life is always something to consider.
You also want to consider parenting styles. Some parents are strict, while some are lenient. Parents also have different methods of disciplining children. You may want to ask your prospective adoptive parents about their parenting styles before choosing an adoptive family.
You may consider whether the adoptive parents will pay for some or all of your medical expenses associated with your pregnancy and giving birth. Depending on the laws of your state, your adoptive parents may help you with medical and living expenses. You may also be eligible for state and federal aid. Adoption Choices can help you get the financial assistance you need.
Most importantly, you want to be sure your child will be raised in a stable and loving home. You want to make sure that your prospective adoptive family has a strong relationship and is able to provide a stable upbringing for your child. This can involve two parents, one parent, a same sex couple, mixed heritage couples, or nonreligious parents, as long as the child has a good upbringing. Having a good upbringing is very important as many parents place their child for adoption because they do not feel they can provide a stable upbringing for their child.
Finally, think about the importance you place on these and other criteria. Are some of things non-negotiable, or are you flexible? Whether or not you are willing to negotiate will make a difference when choosing an adoptive family.
Of course, none of these criteria replace your gut instinct. Sometimes birth parents choose adoptive parents because of something huge, such as the relationship between the prospective adoptive parents and how it relates to the upbringing they will be able to provide for their child. Sometimes the smallest things will lead to the choice of an adoptive parent. For example, a birth parent may choose an adoptive family based on their careers. At the end of the day, the choice is yours. And sometimes it just feels right, whether or not you can quantify your reasons.
Want to learn more about choosing an adoptive family for your child? Contact Adoption Choices of Missouri today.