Choosing a Single Adoptive Father as a Birth Mother
A child does not have to grow up in a mother-father dynamic in order to be loved unconditionally. Choosing a single adoptive father as a birth mother has many positive aspects, such as an increased sense of independence and a stronger work ethic. As a birth mother, you don’t need to feel like you’re sacrificing the future of your child by choosing a single adoptive father. You may have specific wants and requirements for your child’s life that only he could provide. So, think of it more as you are merely selecting a different path.
Deciding who will raise your child is not something to be taken lightly. It takes a lot of thought and research. But don’t worry – you are not alone. Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri is here to help you every step of the way.
To get you started, here are several things to consider when choosing a single adoptive father to raise your child:
Fathers can be as Nurturing as Mothers
The “stay-at-home mother” character has been ingrained in society for forever. It’s to the disadvantage of single fathers, because a common perception is that it’s the mother’s role to love, teach and care for the children. But a child raised by a single adoptive father can be just as loved and cared for as one raised by two parents.
Let’s dive into the benefits of choosing a single adoptive father:
- Undivided Attention
Choosing a single adoptive father as a birth mother ensures that a child receives undivided attention. Additionally, a child raised by a single adoptive parent is brought up under only one set of ideals. This can allow your child to become more confident in themselves at an early age. Co-parenting can be met with unmatched beliefs, leaving a child stuck in the middle and unsure of what to think. This can, in the end, lead to less fighting.
It’s well known that children brought up in peaceful households are happier and healthier. Some children even prefer this set up. Meeting an entire new family can be overwhelming, but a single adoptive father can make easing into the process much easier.
- Lessons that a Father Teaches
A father teaches kids to change a tire and check their oil (really all things car-related). He teaches them how to balance a checkbook. How to fish. Teaches the importance of a strong work ethic. He also shows by example, which your child will learn by watching him as they grow up. But above all, a single adoptive father teaches your child his or her value. He will remind them every day that he or she is worth more than they could imagine.
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- No Love Lost
Even if, as a birth mother, you choose a single adoptive father, your child will not be any less loved. As single fathers are often more settled in their life, there will be less pressure on him in his career and more time for him to devote to your child. He will ensure that your child gets into a good school, help him or her with their schoolwork, and support them as they grow. He will protect them and prepare them for the real world.
Along with him, your child will also have a family – uncles, aunts, grandparents and cousins who will love and cherish them. A single-parent household does not mean less love or support. There’s always help right around the corner. Family can be found anywhere.
- They Want It
Single adoptive fathers who decide to adopt have spent a long time carefully planning and preparing. It isn’t something they’ve chosen to do lightly. Rather, they have made sure they are financially stable and in a place where they can have a family without the immediate help of a partner or spouse.
Studies show that single father households do just as well as single mother households, so you don’t need to worry about your child not giving the love and attention they need and deserve. A single adoptive father is dedicated and fully committed to giving your child the chance to live their best life.
Choosing a Single Adoptive Father as a Birth Mother
Selecting a prospective adoptive parent to raise your child is a big decision. There is a lot to consider. Remember to ask your adoption caseworker any and all questions you have and address any concerns. If you are wanting to choose a single adoptive father for your child, we hope that this resource has helped ease any anxieties you had.
At the end of the day, remember to choose who you think would be the best fit for your child. Someone who will give him or her their best life and provide them with opportunities to be successful. Single adoptive fathers are great individuals to think about. Not only are they excited about growing their family through adoption, but they are also dedicated and fully committed to the adoption process. Rest assured, they will do their utmost to raise your child into the happy, healthy, independent adult that he or she is meant to be.
Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071
Meet the Author: Anna DeJonge was born in Michigan as the coolest triplet in the trio. She moved to Florida for school to broaden her horizons and travel the country. She’s double majoring in creative writing and communications, as her two passions are writing and people. When she’s not writing, she can be found snuggling up with her dog, hiking in the great outdoors, or reading a fantasy novel. After graduation, she hopes to move to the Big Apple and work for a publishing company or literary magazine, while writing her own stories on the side.